A person I know married his elder brother’s wife after she became widow wıth one son.
Later they had a baby boy.
But then one day I came to know they got divorced. Now the woman was left wıth one son from the prevıous husband who died and the other from his brother. I felt very sorry, but wondered what might have been the possible reason of such a sad ending after the younger brother took such a brave step after his elder brother died and the widow needed someone to help her in continuing her family life.
Though I could never gain enough courage to ask anyone about something which is not related to me, I am curious to know what would you have done if you were in place of either of the two (Allah Forbid) ?
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When you have imaan in your heart and the fear of Allah, you will (insha'Allah) make decisions based on that and not to please anyone else. When it comes to such situations, a person should not get emotional and make decisions fast. Islam teaches us to look at all sides of the picture and ponder upon the sitation and make decisions with brain rather than heart. I do not know what might've caused the divorce, but have observed some cases where couple get married and then one of them is not satisfied because he/she married *"in a hurry" *and did not think about it before taking the step. Why would you not think about the matter completely and make a decision in a hurry and thus, ruin not only your life but someone else's too?
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I think its always easier to say what you "woulda" done in that situation...but here, you dont know what the situation really was, yeah? So hard to say....
The brother obviously had very good intentions when marrying his brothers widow, bless him for that. What happened after that, we dont know and even if we did, it would be easy to say "well I would have done it THIS way" etc. You really dont know that though, not till you've walked a mile in those particular shoes.
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^ I agree. very good point :)
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Well said HHL and Mo3. JazakAllah khair for sharing your views on the matter.