Re: Should MIL receive gold?
Its a tradition in our family. Not only the MIL, the nands, FIL and BIL also recieves something. I honestly dont see anything wrong with it. If you can afford it you go for it, if not, whats the big drama. I feel desis nowadays have to pick on everything and anything.
Re: Should MIL receive gold?
No, she shouldn't, but yes she does most of the times. Until now, I never gave much thought to it, but now that I think of it, seems a bit unfair that the boy's side should get all the gifts. In fact, they feel entitled to nice, expensive gifts. Okay, there is nothing wrong with give a nice present if one can afford it, but what about the girl's side? Can boy's family not afford anything? Why is girl's side always obligated to hand out presents on each occassion? If gifts are a gesture of good will, then this feeling should be mutual. Plus, the girl's side is already giving away their daughter to you. Thori tou sharam karni chahiye larke walon ko bhi.
I personally feel that the guy's side too should give presents to girl's family. I have a feeling that this 'tradition' was started and encouraged by boys' families.
Re: Should MIL receive gold?
In my family, the MIL and FIL both seem to always get gold. The MIL usually one of: earings/kara/small set depending on how well of people are, and the FIL usually a gold watch. Sometimes, some also give gold to the grooms siblings, but that isn't so common.
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yes
Re: Should MIL receive gold?
On my two elder sis weddings my parents gave earring to their MIL...If u dunt feel burden then go for it ...If u can go $1000 for Dj then why cant afford $ 600 for MIL?? but again if u cant afford then dunt take tension about custom or tradition etc
Re: Should MIL receive gold?
In my family, gifts are definitely given but not necessarily gold. Not like its a tradition that ONLY gold is to be given as a present. I think if you can afford it, go for it. If not, there are many other things that could be gifted.
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For the people gifting gold to the FILs, I thought gold was haraam for men.
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^ You are so right - gold is haram for men - even wearing something which replicates gold is considered to be bad. I didn't know people gifted their FIL with gold - first time I'm hearing about it.
I'm hoping to break this dumb tradition of gifting gold to the groom - I'm hoping to go for silver instead.
As for the MIL - I've seen gold being handed out all the time, but it's not mandatory.