Should life be based on sacrifice?

hmmm in this case its a "marry your cousin" situation. I'd never considered it ever, having been brought up in the western world, I consider it a bit weird.

on the one hand they know what's best for me, but on the other, their reasons a slightly selfish (that if its a girl from the family she'll respect us and live with us but if she's from outside the family she'll want to live separately, will be rude to us - it almost comes off as "if she's my niece I can control her and make her do what I want)