One of my friends, her younger sister,got married while she is still single.Now a family came to see her,& and the reason they rejected her was because,they got suspicious why she is still single while her younger sister is married.
Do you people think it was fair for her to get rejected just because her younger sister is married which made the family suspicious about her past/character,though there’s nothing wrong with her past/character.
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NO people are jaahil who reject rishta.
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I doubt you yourself think it's fair...or you wouldn't have created this thread. There could be several reasons behind a younger sibling getting married before the elder....and if the only one that this family can come up with is that something must be severely lacking or wrong in your friend...then it reflects a limited scope/intelligence on their part. While on one hand you feel put off with them....on the other hand it's a good thing that they moved on. Your friend wouldn't have wanted to marry into that family. Dwelling on them is like giving them importance and they don't deserve it. She hasn't invested any emotional energy in them...so it shouldn't be difficult for her to get past this.
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Tell your friend, that she is lucky to have got ridden of such a family without any efforts from her side. She should better offer Shukrana nafil, as it was a blessing in disguise from nature. What if her younger sister wasn't married, there was no way she could have figured out on her own this 'mentality' of that family.
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It Shouldn't !
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No, it shouldn't matter.. Your friend is better off without potential inlaws who think that way..
My brother married before me even tho he's slightly younger.. of course that's considered even worse :D
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Um, why would anyone be worried about that kind of rejection?
You're asking if its fair that the older sister got rejected because the younger one got married? As if its the younger sister's fault?
So it can't possibly be that the guy who rejected the girl is such a paindu...the fact that he's a guy and on top of that a potential rishta...that's like gold right?
How can this situation be rectified so the girl feels better about herself?
Re: Should it matter so much?
Yes it should. It makes complete logical sense.
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paindu 
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haan kehdiya
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Never underestimate the predictability of JAHALAT ! and Thank God that she did not get married in such a family.
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No... There is nothing wrong in getting married after your younger sister.
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I've seen this happen so many times (including in my own family). My older sister is not married but the one slightly younger than her (but older than me!) is getting married. Which is stressing my parents out cos they are worried people will wonder why my older sister isn;t married yet.
Don't listen to this kind of mentality, its very shallow and unnecessary.