That there kids are financially and physically well and happy adults even if they don’t call them, visit them or meet them?
Now that my kids are young i feel, it would be enough for me, but i don’t know, how i’ll feel when i grow old.
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Its not enough for my parents...at least I think so.
It wont be enough for me.
That there kids are financially and physically well and happy adults even if they don't call them, visit them or meet them?
Now that my kids are young i feel, it would be enough for me, but i don't know, how i'll feel when i grow old.
It's our duty to teach our kids the rights of parents for their own benefit. So, though you don't want to keep your expectations you still need to make them aware of their duties and instill respect and love regarding parents.
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Umm... Yeah, I think it would be enuff for them. Now me and my brother are older. Once i'm married off. My brother would do his own thing. And as long as financially and physically well and happy, Then i would WANT my parents to go somewhere and be happy. And I would go visit them. Its Our duty to return the favour and see if there ok and go and visit them and make the effort to call them.
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I answer your question with my own. Do you think you will be okay if your wife left the home for a couple of years and never bothered to contact you?
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*That never should be good enough. As parents grow older they need their children more and more. *
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I feel guilty for not being with my mother now that she is old and needs people around to help her. She's had a very busy tough life.
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My mom will probably move in with me and my family. I'm not leaving her.
My Dad. Meh.
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no it shouldn't be enough. parents need their children especially when they get really old and they crave the company and attention. i can understand if someone lives far away from their parents but surely a phone call everyday just to see how they are doing is the bare minimum anyone can do for their parents just to show they care and are still thinking of them even though the can't visit as often as they would like.
That there kids are financially and physically well and happy adults even if they don't call them, visit them or meet them?
Now that my kids are young i feel, it would be enough for me, but i don't know, how i'll feel when i grow old.
You feel this way because your kids are still young. And young children are DEPENDENT upon their parents for financial, physical, emotional well-being (food, water, shelter, clothes, education, moral guidance, health, etc). They can't survive on their own, and since these things are your PREDOMINANT concern now......you feel content if these requirements are met. Your needs will change as the relationship with your children evolves.
When your kids grow older and more independent........and are able to fulfill these requirements ON THEIR OWN..........you might wish that they'd take out some time to spend with you. I think it's human nature for everyone (including parents) to desire consideration in others. Nobody wants to feel like a machine that was "used." I don't know if that makes sense. People are more than just providers...........they have feelings and emotional needs. And that's what parents teach their children along with fulfilling their basic needs. They teach the importance of having sensitivity and consideration for others. Without these qualities, life becomes robotic and brutal.
My mom will probably move in with me and my family. I'm not leaving her.
My Dad. Meh.
Well if were talking about moving in. I would take my dad anyday. My mum can stay with the cats. Actually poor cats i wouldnt do that to them, i would take them too!
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wat if we giv our kids money, food but leave them alone and come back n chk them after several months? they'll never forgiv us for that once they grow up
wat if we giv our kids money, food but leave them alone and come back n chk them after several months? they'll never forgiv us for that once they grow up
^ That's right. You can't compensate emotional needs with material needs. You can't assume that as long as one is financially established and can meet their physical and material needs.....that such an individual is content. Emotional/social interactions develop our self-esteem and understanding of other human beings. Otherwise we'd be very callous. And parents are responsible for guiding their kids and instilling these qualities along with meeting material needs.
It reminds me of an example/story that mom has shared several times. There was a kid who picked someone's pocket and told him mom about it. She didn't stop him the first time. No boundaries or limits was set, no guidance offered. Encouraged by her apathy, he become bolder in his thieving. Stole from bigger people and places. Became a notorious criminal. And like all good things come to an end, he was eventually caught by the police and thrown in jail. Behind prison bars, he beckoned to his mom to come closer to him. He told her to bring her ear closer to the bars....as though he had something to tell her. When she did.....he bit her ear.....for not stopping and guiding him in the first place.
Sounds like an extreme example, but it points out that parents play a strong role in how their kids turn out. You can either raise them to think only of themselves, or you can raise them to become balanced individuals who know the importance of material needs as well as having empathy/reaching out to others.....especially the hand that fed them.
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^ For some fatty kids, that’s not a bad idea. Give them 10 tuna tins and walk away for one month. :k: Guaranteed weight loss.
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@RV funny but my mom has told me same story.
PCG i really feel for ur dad. u should giv him a second chance. afterall u just didn’t grow up all by urself. u used his support whole time.
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**kids must visit their parents, be nice N polite to them, support them financially, emotionally and physically. this is NOT just a choice on the part of kids, its their religious duty. they have been commanded by Allah SWT to do that. WE MUST TELL THEM so they have no EXCUSE!
urdu meN kahte haiN k...madad karo daame, dirame, suKhane!**
:k: Nicely put, as always.
That there kids are financially and physically well and happy adults even if they don't call them, visit them or meet them?
Now that my kids are young i feel, it would be enough for me, but i don't know, how i'll feel when i grow old.
It depends on so many thing. For me personally if I and my husband are both together when we are old then I would be very happy living together, just two of us independently . Going to early bird dinners and cocos together. Yes kids and their families can come visit during the holidays but living with them does not seem attractive to me.