What do you do when people ask you about the color or designer of your wedding dress? Is it better to just keep it a secret or tell people? I’m really not used to hiding things so I’ve told people in the family, but now I’m regretting it wondering whether they would do the same if they were in my situation and also thinking that I might have ruined any element of surprise for the big day! what did you guys do?
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a lot of people in pakistan tend to be secretive but im also not like that. so whoever asked me about any detail about my dresses, jewelry, etc. i told them anything they wanted to know. i also know that if i had been the one asking, some of them would actually lie.
i didnt have a problem telling, if u dont want to disclose some info, just say 'ull see it on the day of the wedding.'
though once i got my wedding dress, no one saw it except my sister and mom. even if people saw the box with the dress in it, i wouldnt let anyone take the dress out.
I think people used to keep it a secret so that other girls wouldn't wear the same colour as the bride! I know it sounds really stoopid but girls can get so stupidly jealous and competitive over silly things! Even Aunties! Lol!
I didn't see the big deal in keeping it a secret and when anyone asked, I told them openly. Big mistake! Lol! So many girls and aunties wore the same colour as me! At first I thought it was just a coincidence and then I realized it wasn't! Ha ha! I just laughed it off but later on I did wonder why they did that?!
But then on one of my cousins shaadi, everyone found out she was wearing a tea-pink colour. My other cousins intentionally wore pink. One of my Aunties was advising me to wear pink b/c the Bride was going to wear pink. I was thinking WTF? In one of the wedding photos I took when all the 'pink ladies' went to the stage to take pics with the Bride, the Bride completely faded in with them even though she was looking stunning.
But I think some brides keep it a secret simply to give a nice surprise to their family and guests.
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Some keep quiet b/c they are afraid someone will say the dress looks bad.....which i gues would kill their own excitement...
I told people when they asked. I don't see the big deal. It's not like I'm seeking patent for the colour combination.
It's up to you if you want to keep it secret or not. My mom was telling everyone everything about the dress and I wasn't too happy about it. Not because I thought people would be jealous or wear the same color or any other such stupid thoughts..but ONLY because I wanted it to be a suprise on the wedding day. It's no fun when everyone already knows what it is.
On ther other hand, few aunties who couldn't attend the wedding and I had no problem if they saw my dresses and jewellery.
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I guess it depends.... Personally I wouldn't mind telling because I know that as a bride I will out-shine all the guests! They can wear the same color as me, I don't care. But the bride will always be the prettiest one :-) So, bring it on....
Why would somebody be secretive about such a silly little thing as clothes is beyond me. I mean seriously I never get the ooh I would die if someone has the same outfit as mine sentiment. Anyways in my family all the mamiaan, chachiaan and cousins not only see the shaddi shopping but often time assist in it too. The truth is that the wedding day belongs to the bride and no matter how many aunties wear the same color as the bride it won't change a thing.
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yeah but some ppl (friends, family friends etc) can be super annoying and keep on insisting that you show them your shaadi jora before the shaadi and then they mind if you dont. I find asking to see the jora much more offensive than asking abt the color/kaam.
And as Sara516 said there are some ppl who will look at it then say it looks bad/wont suit them/you pai wayyyy too much etc etc--A bride DOES NOT need to hear these things abt her jora.
As for the color--90% of brides still get red...so why keep red a secret....
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i know what you guys mean...my aunts know that my outfit was picked and the pic was emailed to me..so they all wanted to see the pics....and mum was like beta laptop lay kay ao zara unko dress dikatey hai and no matter how many looks i gave my mum she didnt get it....
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I'd keep it as a surprise probably.. i would not like to tell anyone... I dunno y, but just the way i like it....
I don't mind telling abt the designer but not the colour etc... I normally say Shaadi k din hi dekh liye ga! :)
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i wouldn't mind telling them the colour of my dress or so.. But i wouldn't tell them the price, since i know they'll compare if it's really worth it or not!
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Totally agree with the price thing too...
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Yeah, it's really annoying when people ask the price. Colour and style I can handle but what business do people have knowing how much I paid. And I wouldn't show the dress to many people either...just close family and friends.
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I told people abt the color of the wedding dress cuz it is not red otherwise people should mind their own business and they have no right to ask how much the dress cost.
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honestly i dunt want to tell people but usually wen ppl ask me.. i open my mouth and let out everything.. and ifout dat dey have used it b4 i got my thing..
e,.gg once one of my ants asked me wt jora i was gonna get done for eid( i no its not a big thing) but anyho0o0o i tldd her everything and late found out her daughther had da XACTTTTTT same thingg and my ant told everyone III copied HER daughter...andd its not just eid.. shes made a habit of doing it on EVERYdam thing.. even for shaadis,..i swearr its so annoying and if i have worn somthing b4 dem..and den she orr her daughter wears it.. dey say.. " o i had myne madeee from lng time ago.." annoyinn i swear..
even for my shaadi.. i dunt no wen my shaadi is..andd wen ppl ask i tell dem wt i want..n i find out my ferinds n relatives to have gotten married.. had datt.. n it sux coz if i use it now.. dey will say I copied DEM..lol
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dam thosee antis.. lol
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I got both my wedding and valima outfit and everyone person i meet wants to know what color it is. Sometimes people get very offended when i tell them that "they will have the oppertunity to see me wear it" aunties think thats rude. But in my opinion if i go off and telll everyone what im wearing what color and how it looks, the day i walk into my wedding venue it wount be a surprise. It would be as if everyone knew exactly how i would look. And im sure no bride would want that...atleast i wouldnt