Chameli- its yr call all the way...do what u think is rite what u feel is rite...if i were in yr place i dont thnk i wud call her ever...i cant take such behavior from any1...i may miss her at times but i wl prefer 2 suffer cuz of that than 2 be the one to call her...its not abt ego but when u know u r rite n u didnt do any wrong than u shud stick 2 yr position and let the other learn and if they dun realize than 2 bad maybe they r not good enuff for yr time..how can she be yr true frnd when she is jealous of u? i cud have understood had she felt lil sad abt this whole thing feeling that she is older but not enganged but come on she shud not feel jealous of u...how is that yr fault anywayz?...havin said that if u still feel that u want to wish her than by all means go ahead...cuz at times its nice 2 go with yr heart and forget abt whats the rite thing 2 do...if u can forget abt what she did 2 u and talk 2 her and wish ehr with a clean heart than do so and maybe dat wl make her realize it? u r the judge here girl...make a wise decision for yrself!!! gud luck.
I have beent hinking about this dilemma for some time and have realized that I have 2 reasons for wanting to wish her: One is that I dont to be a bad person and end up like her and another is that I miss to have friends so y not loosen up with her.
And I some reasons for not wanting to contact her: I feel hurt by her behaviour. It is not first time she has been like that to me and secondly I have during a very long period felt that ppl use me for their needs and purposes and its not nice feeling when they treat u bad on top of it...
For those of you who think my posts are too self-centred: Firstly u can stop reading my posts. Its not too difficult not to click on the posts! Secondly the few of u who mentioned it also mentioned that one should be caring etc. so what about u showing some concern to a person who uses gupshup forum for advices on her personal issues. If u cant be of any help plz dont intervene in the conversations between me and other gupshup members.
As for me, I feel very depressed and lonely without friends here and due to previous negative expereinces with friends I kind of lack the will and trust in making new and loyal friends. I have become sceptic and I really want to get rid of this feeling....
You are expecting kindness and understanding from random strangers, when you can't even send a simple card (random act of kindness?) to your friend of 12 yrs without discussing her "shortcomings" in public. So like I said, this is nothing but drama. Come back when you are facing real issues and not just craving attention.
For those of you who think my posts are too self-centred: Firstly u can stop reading my posts. Its not too difficult not to click on the posts! **Secondly the few of u who mentioned it also mentioned that one should be caring etc. so what about u showing some concern to a person who uses gupshup forum for advices **on her personal issues. If u cant be of any help plz dont intervene in the conversations between me and other gupshup members.
Mehnaz, apparantly we are Omni-intelligent. If it wasnt a word we've certainly had the vision to coin it now.
Chem: Apparantly its fashionable on this site (full of strangers) - to go through seasons of bullies and victims. So play the duck with a wet back and let other peoples bull**** wash over you like water. In my opinion you should do unto her as you would have wanted her to act towards you. At a latre date, if her bahviour continues to be disrespectful - you can talk to her. But for now you probably have larger issues to philosophise about and other priorities.
Also, Im a firm believer that people in our life are like seasons. Sometimes peoples melodrama isnt worth it. Move on cordially. Cut your losses but try not to burn your bridges.
Chameliji, one sign of maturing in life is to recognize that not everybody will care for you no matter how sweet you are to them. Right this kutti off as a learning experience and move on. I am sure you have many true friends who care about you.
Chameli.. its better to have few good friends than alot of acquaintances. I’ve learnt that the hard way, believe me it will be rough for a while but in the end it’s worth it when you realize that even though your circle may be quite small, you’ll fully enjoy the company of those people rather than feel like crap in a large group. It doenst matter how long you’ve known her, you have to be clear-headed in that if she’s not treated you with teh same respect and friendship that you’ve extended towards her and expected from her, its better to just cut your losses right now. I think there’s nothing worse than being obliged to keep a dead freidnship alive. Don’t let loneliness cloud your judgement.
It was a general comment, not directed at anybody.