errrmmm....yeah and the context is that if you find someone attractive then you shouldn't look at him and don't think about him.....as I said when I go out I don't find other men attractive but I notice that they look at me and sometimes I like this attention when I'm not supposed to. And also, if we sense that they are looking at us with desire then we should look away to discourage them.
We are allowed to look at men for halal dealings.
Peace dearest
Finding the attention of others good may be something ingrained in our human nature why are you fighting this or considering it as wrong?
Rather I would suggest you handle this feeling by attributing it away from yourself and on to Allah (SWT). That if anyone looks at you and you like it to say this is no big thing from you, rather it is a gift from Allah (SWT) and it is He Who has enabled this gift to you. This way you need not fight the attention repurcussion and at the same time observe a humble attitude towards it and more importantly you need to ensure that you are not doing anything to purposely draw attention to yourself ... i.e. follow the precepts of hijab. Simple.
errrmmm....yeah and the context is that if you find someone attractive then you shouldn't look at him and don't think about him.....as I said when I go out I don't find other men attractive but I notice that they look at me and sometimes I like this attention when I'm not supposed to. And also, if we sense that they are looking at us with desire then we should look away to discourage them.
We are allowed to look at men for halal dealings.
I think this is a verse that speaks for itself. Please show me evidence for only applying in that context.
Yours is a perfect example to be honest. You are modest in your dress. If you were to lower your gaze and not observe men looking at you, it would do a number of things - they wouldn't be compelled to keep on looking; you wouldn't know they were looking and therefore not be able to like it, removing your feelings of guilt.
As I said, wisdom in this verse beyond the apparent.
I think I said earlier on in a common sense way - if you are engrossed in your husband and children, you won't notice other men looking.
Looking at men for halal dealings has come out of nowhere. That's not what was being discussed here was it?
I think this is a verse that speaks for itself. Please show me evidence for only applying in that context.
Yours is a perfect example to be honest. You are modest in your dress. If you were to lower your gaze and not observe men looking at you, it would do a number of things - they wouldn't be compelled to keep on looking; you wouldn't know they were looking and therefore not be able to like it, removing your feelings of guilt.
As I said, wisdom in this verse beyond the apparent.
I think I said earlier on in a common sense way - if you are engrossed in your husband and children, you won't notice other men looking.
Looking at men for halal dealings has come out of nowhere. That's not what was being discussed here was it?
As a woman, you should know that you can sense other people looking at you. So, it doesn't necessarily mean that I am looking at them when I realize that they are looking at me.
By quoting this ayah to me, you are trying to say that I don't lower my gaze and nor I guard my modesty.
This thread is not about halaal dealings with men. Far from it. And can someone shoot me if my husband ever replies to my thoughts on an Internet forum. It's as if Life1 has become people's living rooms.
As a woman, you should know that you can sense other people looking at you. So, it doesn't necessarily mean that I am looking at them when I realize that they are looking at me.
I don't have eyes on the back of my head, so only if I SEE them. I am usually too busy in other things to notice if this is going on, it really does work.
I don't have eyes on the back of my head, so only if I SEE them. I am usually too busy in other things to notice if this is going on, it really does work.
May be you're not as self conscious then. But I hope you know what I'm saying.
May be you're not as self conscious then. But I hope you know what I'm saying.
Yup, I'm not really preoccupied with myself.
I don't know what your saying other than that awkward feeling one get when you are being really looked at. I find that this only happens if you reciprocate (make eye contact or whatever) or are somewhere with a high concentration of desi's (not excluding a few other cultures either), where they feel it's fair game to look at you like they've never seen a woman before. Solution - don't go to those places.
Hareem - my dear - sorry to say this but this was the most stupidest post ever posted by you.
You might be bored - but come on have some intelligent issue to talk about.
Let me ask you this - has it been really that long since guys laid eyes on you?
It's normal. now get over it!
A guy stares at big fat ugly girl's big butt - just to say that damn she is big. so there! Does it make you feel any better? He did not mean to "undress" her in anyways - right?
So may be you are worried that they might be staring at your specifics - and that might be making you feel uncomfy?
man - what ever it is... let it go. Guys really dig for ANYTHING out there... even manicans... and "dig" was meant for staring and not necessily anything more than that.
I hope you are no longer bored... cause girl I want you to get ova dhis :)
Hareem - my dear - sorry to say this but this was the most stupidest post ever posted by you.
You might be bored - but come on have some intelligent issue to talk about.
Let me ask you this - has it been really that long since guys laid eyes on you?
It's normal. now get over it!
A guy stares at big fat ugly girl's big butt - just to say that damn she is big. so there! Does it make you feel any better? He did not mean to "undress" her in anyways - right?
So may be you are worried that they might be staring at your specifics - and that might be making you feel uncomfy?
man - what ever it is... let it go. Guys really dig for ANYTHING out there... even manicans... and "dig" was meant for staring and not necessily anything more than that.
I hope you are no longer bored... cause girl I want you to get ova dhis :)
lol
I know it sounded stupid to you but it was a genuine concern.
Stop blaming men. Its your fault. Stop being lazy at make up dept. put on that dark maskara and thick blood line lipstick with tripple coating of bllush on. If you are naive in style dept them learn from other girls in this forum or fashion forum.
All you need to do is shed that cloak of being innocent Kashmala Tariq.
This new dawn , you are no longer petite , meek and sleek girl. Look at new horizon , your epitome of class and your role model. Dr. Firdous Ashiq Awan. :k:
Carry your 3.5 kg beauty box with you, walk and talk like Dr. Firdous Ashiq Awan. I gaurentee the gaze of all men would be grounded for good.
Once you become the prototype of that amazon woman, no man would ever raise his glance at you. No mard ka bacha would stare at you.
I wear Asian clothes and I live in a society were English clothes is the norm, I often get stared at... sometimes it does get to me... (Especially when i am wearing rainbow colour outfits).. But I believe you should be strong.. even if it does get you down sometimes... I just couldn’t imagine changing myself just to stop those stares... for me I have also gone through the stage of should I or should I not wear hijab, like yourself so i am not noticed too. But one thing you need to consider is that you want to wear a hijab when you have a strong imaan, you want to wear it to please Allah (SWT). You do understand Allah is also staring and watching you, if you do not wear it for the sake of Allah, who are these people.. I totally understand about your husband, it may be portrayed in a wrong way if it is not normal to wear a hijab in the area you live in.
to whoever ‘stare’!