Thank you so much, I am starting to see changes in some of the younger people. I sold some duplexes to young Indian immigrants and a lot of these young men are good cooks and seem to have great chemistry, but then the MILs are back in India. I am convinced that this is an era of gender neutrality. With my mishap on the road the 4 police cruisers that came to the location were all driven by single females. I am in favor of raising girls to be strong and independent and able to live without male supervision.
Of course she is not. There is extra reward if she does and no sin if she doesn’t.
Expecting a wife to cook has nothing to do with religion but everything to do with culture.
Sometimes it feels that some people adopt the bad traits of different cultures. Although I haven’t really seen Arab men helping out with the household chores either. I am starting to see young Indian men doing the cooking and cleaning and not thinking that cooking and cleaning makes them a lesser man.
Are you talking about Arabs in North America having maids? I haven’t come across Arabs having maids here. I used to go to a friends house who was in a subsidized housing and the entire neighborhood consisted of Arabs. We do have a few wealthy Arabs but they are very few, we have many more driving cabs, shuttles, limos and painting and doing stucco. You seem to come from a really nice family. We were very popular and used to be invited at lots of social gatherings and I never saw men helping out. If we had more men like your family we would be a golden culture but we are listed by international agencies as one of the lowest in gender equality.
That is another evil altogether with rape, abuse, exploitation. I would rather the wife cooks and cleans over them beating and exploiting Filipinos, Indians, Bangladeshis.
I will not engage in a discussion about something none of us have even 50% knowledge about.
Your facts stem from media and a couple of people you met. My facts stem from the many people I meet but who do not constitute even 5% of the population . My opinions will be biased due to my emotional attachment to my home.
So, not jumping into this discussion
So if the wife isn’t supposed to raise the kids and isn’t supposed to pay the bills? Then what’s her role? I’m just curious. I feel like people pick and choose what they want to follow from Islamic teachings, that’s why I never the quote the Qur’an if I feel something is right or wrong, cause there a million of other stuff in Islam that people don’t follow but they’ll pick out that one thing that’s in their favor.
^^ I did not read anyone here stated wife is not supposed to raise kids. If I have missed anyone stating that, maybe you can quote that post so more people could become “curious” like you whether to get their wives to pay bills or to get her as a replacement to the maid.
When one has been married for sooooo long and has 3 jawan kids, one would think that at this point they would be able to figure out (without creating a thread) whether they should wake their spouse or not. This could have been a blog entry but it wasn’t.
What took the Hawaldar so long, normally you are on my case a lot sooner lol!!! No matter how long you have been in a relationship new issues come up every day. Us going camping alone and leaving kids behind was the first and was really enjoyable.
I follow the law of land and as per western family law compelling a spouse to do anything is classified as abuse. One basic rule of relationships is that you don’t keep scores. I was in that relationship once where my ex used to tell me that she makes more money, she did more than me etc. Basically here you get to know a person for few years and establish what she is willing to do or not. I live in an affluent neighborhood where many wives don’t work or cook and clean, they run and workout and look after their appearance. My next door neighbor is married to a stunning Asian woman, they have two young kids she does not work or do housework and her husband treats her like a godess. The mother of your children is a very special woman. Whatever my wife does is voluntary and I never compel her.
You can even quote any such tweet you came across for the enlightenment of people who have not seen anyone ever saying that raising kids is not parents’ responsibility in Islam.
Actually, the one doing the picking/choosing of Islamic references is you. You cannot swallow the fact that Islamically a wife is not obliged to clean/cook/pay bills but due to your refusal to accept an Islamic fact, in your frsutration, you wrongly accusing posters here and outside this forum stating/tweeting that Islam free wives of obligation of raising kids.
