We didn't really have a formal engagement. But during the months between our "baat pakki" and the actual wedding, my wife's birthday came up, so I was faced with a similar situation.
What I ended up doing was the following:
On the actual day of her birthday she received a bunch of roses and a cake, which I had ordered through one of those online services. She had no clue about it of course because then it wouldn't have been a surprise. But I had consulted her parents whether that would be ok with them.
And since one of our "aunties" was going to Pakistan shortly after my wife's birthday and wanted to go and meet her anyway, I asked her to deliver the actual gift I had bought for her over here: A bracelet.
Send a perfume gift box or just a chocolate box with a book like Reha mentioned. Thats about it. If you send alot of stuff for her and her family , that wont look too nice plus raise too much expectation. You arent yet formally engaged to her. Also you dont want the gift to look like a big thing at this stage. It should be like a token of care.
Later when the actual Engagement happens you can send a bigger gift to her.
Dude apny payr per kulhara mat maro..
Send her some thing simple that too NOT TOO often.
The romance you are showing now is going to set her pace. She is going to expect
same treatment all the time. And when time passes by... and you don't want to sit on same sofa with her :D
She is going to whine a lot..... A LOT
so dude be wise... she is not going any where.... so take it easy... like real easy...
What is the status of your relationship, is it baat paaki? I think that is engaged?
I thought the England was known for its sweaters, so you can send that along with a good perfume.
Yeah England is well famous for its sweaters but dont send it, I remember, while I was young I had my mums friend in England, she used to bring sweater for me and my friends used to amke fun of it, Kya choay rang* ka sweater hai!
* Rat-Colored.
there are going to be so many opportunities to give material gifts of significant value......why set the standard so high? why create an expectation?
I prefer gestures rather than material things. Gestures, words and actions go so much further than money spent on "things".
True that. The thought is what matters. And those "small" gifts will be remembered for a lifetime, in fact much more than a lot of bigger gifts that come afterwards.
Thanks guys for your suggestions i think ill go with the safe option with chocolates and deciding between a book/perfume and when we meet in person i might get alittle something more expensive :)
