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kill them with kindness... go, be nice, act like you're loving it... if you don't go, they'll probably badmouth you for not going and that'll make you look like the bad one and them look like the good ones...
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love it
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dude, they sound like they're deliberately cutting you off- don't go. it seems like the only reason they invited you is cos the shaadi is the main event, and they just couldnt eliminate you from it without looking completely bad. these people dont sound like they're worth your time- forget killing them with kindness, its time for a little tit-for-tat. go ice skating with your kids and make your own memories- especially when participating in these people's wedding is a boring, tiresome affair for you. why would you go there? to be ignored? if people were going to gossip in your fam, i would have said the gossiping would have started much earlier with you not being invited to all the other events that your siblings were invited to. jebus. what is up with these people? they clearly have a grudge against you. if its going to be a family politics kind of thing, you can always ask your siblings to step in and defend you, and i'm kind of surprised that no one has called them on it yet. have they (the hosts of the wedding) been lying to people and telling them oh she never comes even tho we invited her so many times, or something?
but seriously, i know i wouldnt go. i'd be like, sorry, my kids come first. not rude, selfish people who didn't give a crap about me and only want a present. and actually, like i said, i dont think its even the pressie here- i think its the fact that politically, they couldnt exclude you from this event since its the main one. they just didnt want to look like complete asses. well, hell, they deserve to FEEL like that. you go with your kids and have fun at the rink! eat icecream too- its the most kick ass thing to do after skating, in the middle of winter.
p.s: with such bad behaviour on their part, please dont feel like you owe them anything, cos you dont. family is family when they include you in things, not exclude you. at some point, self respect has to kick in. and if people ask why you didnt go, well you have your answer already.
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i agree with Zainab and Aiesha - wat have u decided - are u goin or not?
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Just get over it and go.
Life is too short dont waste it complaining. If this is disturbing you that they did not invite you on EID and NIKKAH, just ask them.
I personally HATE the thinking that "oh they invited us to birthday/wedding coz they want our gift". Someone throwing a wedding party/birthday party is not poor to be dying for a gift from a person he/she dont like.
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Well Ive decided we're definitely not going. We phoned my in-laws in Pakistan and they are happy with whatever I decide to do. I also asked my close friend at work and she said don't go. But most of all I really don't want to go. I'm gonna cook a nice big meal at the weekend and go Ice skating and have lots of fun!! Thanks
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I totally agree with u somegroovychick. Thanks.
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breaking realtionsip is a very easy job anyone can do it in a sec, but it takes years to build one..... Then wats the diff from good or bad...
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some people are so dheet…that kindness doesn’t work with them. Instead they become worse if you be kind to them. 
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I wouldn't have even opened a thread for them :D that's giving them way too much importance in my opinion.
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"Be like a tree, which would always give fruit to people no matter how many times people threaten to throw stones at it"
I agree that we should not let others make a fool out of us, but we should also try not to make negative assumptions when our relatives have not "Clearly" put it across our minds that their intentions are bad.
What if their was some very logical and reasonable excuse or for not inviting you. What if due to some problem they forgot or they thought that they have already invited you.<---this might sound lame but in life sometimes such misunderstandings do occur. Why not discuss with a member of their family with whom you are more frank, as communication usually helps in solving complications, NOT assumptions.
Only our ultimate lord knows the secrets that lies in a person's heart. We must try to assume positive things about people as the devil always try to persuade us to do otherwise.
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being a pushover is lame.
i think she's said enough times that they didn't invite her to every single major event happening in their lives, except for one. i don't see how thats ok. sometimes, you gotta stop talking and just do something. it really bothers me when you're just supposed to keep giving in- when is it ok to stop?
but i do get what you're saying, submission, about being positive, etc.
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I understand your point. You see, in my family as well, we have come across such situations. But if we also behave like them than the distances between us and our relatives would increase which Allah dislikes. So why not we take initiative and sacrifice for the love of Allah in bring the relatives closer to each others. MAy be at some stage they might realize and repent their mistake. Atleast we would be satisfied that we did all we could do to please Allah.
p.s. I just gave my opinion by placing myself in that position and how I sincerely felt. I might be wrong and I had no intention of forcing my ideas on others