Should i forget and talk to him?

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Re: Should i forget and talk to him?

@Enigmatic

I know what you mean Mirch bhai but at his point when she herself is weak and recovering, her MIL has her own issues and her hubby is being abusive a confrontation wouldn’t tone down things..infact it might make things worse.

Secondly, asking for explanations or expressing how hurt a person is usually doesnt leave much of an impact on people who are verbally abusive. It gives them another invitation to start hurting the next person all over again. Showing your narazgi by not talking to him would make him realise that something is wrong. The OP’s hubby is using her as a vent out point or a boxing bag sort of a thing and the only way to make him realise this would be the complete absence of communication. Once the anger goes down and he starts missing her, he would want to talk to her and might even say realise he did something wrong and that is when the OP can tell what she felt and how she didn’t like the way he has been verbally abusing her or her daughter.

i think you are very right … in past though he realizes what he says afterward but he never regret then nor say that he was wrong … he just shows more love to me … but as soon as somthing happens (like mil says anything or he is frustrated) he is the same person who abuses and say awful things …

i have been tolerating his this kind of attitude and then forgetting but this time he should have kept in mind my condition and may be if i was ok in health i might have forgiven him by now … he cant even realize through what have i been gone in my abortion … physical and mental stress loss of my first baby and i was alone at that time he wasnt with me … and if i have been punished this makes more sense that he has been punished too

i am just too much hurt