Should i forget and talk to him?

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Re: Should i forget and talk to him?

@Mirch

What if he does not realize his mistake and does not apologize , what is your advice in that case ?
The distance between loved ones has known to instill more love and longing , instead of verbal abuse and fight.

My advice is to let him know what he said was hurtful and that you are mad at him. Make him realize his mistake and talk to him about him making a promise to talk things out instead of being verbally abusive. Love and respect is knows to get desired results more than insults and abuse.

I know what you mean Mirch bhai but at his point when she herself is weak and recovering, her MIL has her own issues and her hubby is being abusive a confrontation wouldn’t tone down things..infact it might make things worse.

Secondly, asking for explanations or expressing how hurt a person is usually doesnt leave much of an impact on people who are verbally abusive. It gives them another invitation to start hurting the next person all over again. Showing your narazgi by not talking to him would make him realise that something is wrong. The OP’s hubby is using her as a vent out point or a boxing bag sort of a thing and the only way to make him realise this would be the complete absence of communication. Once the anger goes down and he starts missing her, he would want to talk to her and might even say realise he did something wrong and that is when the OP can tell what she felt and how she didn’t like the way he has been verbally abusing her or her daughter.