I have my anatomy scan on Monday, and my husband will be coming along with me. We are still on the fence about whether we should find out the gender of our baby. So far, when people ask us, we tell them we arent going to find out, because that is what we are leaning towards. But lately I have been feeling like maybe I want to know. It will make shopping so much easier as well. Im so confused about what to do.
How many of you found out at your 20 week scan? And how many of you think you would find out when the time comes?
You don’t have to tell people, you can just reply them that we are praying for a healthy baby or something along those lines. We found out, the whole experience of watching the baby and watching it move was very moving.
If you like surprises, then wait.
You will not have another scan unless really needed so if you are still confused until your scan, ask the nurse to find the gender and put it in report but not tell you. You can always go back and ask your doctor.
We did find out both times, I dont know if we will find out again if we have another one.
The advice I gave my younger sibs when they all had their first child… there are so few surprises left in life, having a baby, and not knowing what it is , is the biggest surprise of all.
We have a friend who is having her first child after 16 years of TTC. Her and her hubby have decided they want to be surprised. Everyone is giddy with excitement and glee. The basic necessities have been purchased in neutral colours, a baby does not need too much after all.
It is not a surprise for me when I’m in labour - I just want that baby out!
I found out each time because I’m a planner and like things organized also I really hate surprises of any kind.
If you’re undecided ask the technician to write the gender on a slip of paper and give it to you in a sealed envelope. Later if you and hubby decide you can open it and find out.
its a surprise no matter when you find out and makes shopping so much easier. For me neutral baby stuff is no fun.
After discussing it with my husband over and over, we decided not to find out. He was more adamant about not finding out, and said I could find out if I wanted to, but not to tell him. But I know I wouldnt be able to keep it a secret from him. Even if I didnt say something, he would realize from the things I would be buying.
So, it looks like we are “Team Green” until the birth!
Hubby and I both decided we are not going to find out but during the ultrasound he changed his mind and after we were done he went back and asked the tech. Since I didn’t want to know he kept it a secret and didn’t tell me. Even thou I knew that he knows.. he was very good at still keeping it a secret. Up until I delivered the baby I had no dea what we were having and when the baby was born he called out the gender before the doc cuz I was still not 100% sure that he was telling the truth about knowing the gender ..