Hi everyone!
Please help me on the below :(.
I became friends with a guy around 2 months back. When i first spoke to him, i instantly liked him. I felt he is the kind of guy i always wanted in life. Right from beginning till now, we have been continuously chatting with each other through whatsapp, facebook, phone and have met thrice. I felt i have started developing feelings for him. With his behaviour, i thought he liked me too, so i did confess to him that i liked him more than friends. But he was like, he likes me too but only as a friend. He was like, what i was feeling was natural human tendency and said better we dont bring love in between. He said we should just enjoy each other’s company as friends only, and said he does not want to play with my feelings now and later just say sorry. So i told him better we end the friendship so that things should not get more complicated for me. But he said if the friendship ends, he would be lonely, and said lets continue being good friends and said he wants us to become best friends to each other. Though i am still friends with him, i feel i still have a hope that he may change his mind and see me as more than a friend, though i feel it may never happen as he acts completely cool about it when i tell him to find a good guy for me and he says he would look within his friend circle, though it is him who i like.
So, shall i end this friendship completely with him to avoid being more hurt or should i continue being friends with him? Plssss suggest :(.
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End it. There rarely is an undo on this rout.
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What @Decent 6Chora said. End it and move on. There is a lot of misery down this road.
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you have the answer in your own post.
-end it now to spare yourself from further pain
-tell him to find someone else
-how he feels is his problem
-he is not gonna marry you unless he plays 'cool' and uninterested in you game with you to boost his value and ego
-when the guy says 'no' to rishta, he means it so it's pointless for you to persue him any further
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Hi everyone! Please help me on the below :(. I became friends with a guy around 2 months back. When i first spoke to him, i instantly liked him. I felt he is the kind of guy i always wanted in life. Right from beginning till now, we have been continuously chatting with each other through whatsapp, facebook, phone and have met thrice. I felt i have started developing feelings for him. With his behaviour, i thought he liked me too, so i did confess to him that i liked him more than friends. But he was like, he likes me too but only as a friend. He was like, what i was feeling was natural human tendency and said better we dont bring love in between. He said we should just enjoy each other's company as friends only, and said he does not want to play with my feelings now and later just say sorry. So i told him better we end the friendship so that things should not get more complicated for me. But he said if the friendship ends, he would be lonely, and said lets continue being good friends and said he wants us to become best friends to each other. Though i am still friends with him, i feel i still have a hope that he may change his mind and see me as more than a friend, though i feel it may never happen as he acts completely cool about it when i tell him to find a good guy for me and he says he would look within his friend circle, though it is him who i like. So, shall i end this friendship completely with him to avoid being more hurt or should i continue being friends with him? Plssss suggest :(.
If you'll always want to be more than friends with him then you'll have to let him go. He'll obviously never see you as anything more than that. The only reason he still wants you to be his friend right now is purely a selfish reason and I suggest you don't get stuck in this trap. In all honesty, I wouldn't put myself through it. You're just gonna get more attached to him and in the end he'll move on anyway without giving you a single thought and you'll be stuck trying to get over him.
At least you tried to tell him how you feel, so there's no wondering "what if"in the future.
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I became friends with a guy around 2 months back.
But he said if the friendship ends, he would be lonely,
LOL….I assure you that this guy's life was not "lonely" before you met you 2 months ago. Stop allowing your emotions to make decisions for you. End the friendship now before you get more emotionally involved with a guy who is clearly playing games with you. He knows you like him and is enjoying the attention…that's all this is for him.
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What I always wonder is how come some ladies get so much attached to a total stranger in just 2 months?
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What I always wonder is how come some ladies get so much attached to a total stranger in just 2 months?
Agree. Knowing a person for 2 months is not enough, and that too over the internet. I cant develop feelings unless I am speaking face to face with the person, to at least seeing them quite often
As for the question, Dump him before he changes his mind
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The problems will come up later on when he likes someone else and tells you - then you will hate him or resent him and the girl.
I would just distance myself from him because it seems like you won't be able to move past this rejection.
At least he's kind enough for being honest with you and not just using you for time pass? And since the friendship was fairly new, it's not something that will cause you years of misery trying to get over. I would just cut out the excessive time on social media talking to him and reach out to your other friends and spend time with them.
It'll give you another perspective on your situation and also help you unplug yourself from your computer and phone.
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Thanks for the great advises and suggestions guys. Today i finally called it off with him :) and now it is hurting like anything :( :'(.
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Thanks for the great advises and suggestions guys. Today i finally called it off with him :) and now it is hurting like anything :( :'(.
first day is bad but then it gets better. Go eat some ben & jerrys and watch a ridiculous tv show
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Hi everyone! Please help me on the below :(. I became friends with a guy around 2 months back. When i first spoke to him, i instantly liked him. I felt he is the kind of guy i always wanted in life. Right from beginning till now, we have been continuously chatting with each other through whatsapp, facebook, phone and have met thrice. I felt i have started developing feelings for him. With his behaviour, i thought he liked me too, so i did confess to him that i liked him more than friends. But he was like, he likes me too but only as a friend. He was like, what i was feeling was natural human tendency and said better we dont bring love in between. He said we should just enjoy each other's company as friends only, and said he does not want to play with my feelings now and later just say sorry. So i told him better we end the friendship so that things should not get more complicated for me. But he said if the friendship ends, he would be lonely, and said lets continue being good friends and said he wants us to become best friends to each other. Though i am still friends with him, i feel i still have a hope that he may change his mind and see me as more than a friend, though i feel it may never happen as he acts completely cool about it when i tell him to find a good guy for me and he says he would look within his friend circle, though it is him who i like. So, shall i end this friendship completely with him to avoid being more hurt or should i continue being friends with him? Plssss suggest :(.
are you a guy or a girl? also what is your nechural orientation? will give tailored reply according to fit. thanks in advance for helping me help you.
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Thanks for the great advises and suggestions guys. Today i finally called it off with him :) and now it is hurting like anything :( :'(.
Mr. P gave sound advice. I would add one more things. Note down you level of hurt on a scale of one to ten each week. Let us give the hurt you feel a rating of 10. See how that number trends down with each passing week. Once it hits 7, reduce Ben and Jerry dosage to 70 pct. 6 60 pct. 5 50 pct. Stop earring ice cream when level hits 0
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Thanks for the great advises and suggestions guys. Today i finally called it off with him :) and now it is hurting like anything :( :'(.
It will hurt, but it will get better and you will eventually move on. This will not be a permanent state. Waqt aik jaisa nahi rehta.
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So he's just taking you along for the ride even if he knows you have loving feelings for him until he meets the woman he will call his wife? And he needs to stay friends with you because of selfish reasons of loneliness and you still have some tiny hope that he will develop loving feelings for you? If a person loves you in that way he would be moving mountains to be with you. At what point do you think he will obtain a conscience. You've developed your own little imaginary loving relationship with this man who seems to have much better prospects in his non online world because he has no life long interest in this online thing you two have going. You only have a contract temp position in his life.
For that tiny glimmer of hope that you have, here's a way you can tell if he is someone that would move mountains to be with you. After you've completely blocked him out of your life, if he sees you as wife material, you would be on his mind constantly and he would try every way to be with you in the non online world.
But you already know he's not interested in having you as his wife, he's made that clear to you, so seek out other people, increase your social circle and try to meet as many new people as you can so moving on will be much faster and hopefully you won't be wasting anymore time moping over wasteoftime#1. Stay away from the ice cream and feel good non healthy food and hit the gym with the goal of making yourself smokin hot. Our time on this earth is precious, you want to spend it on quality people that won't be using you.
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Thanks for the great advises and suggestions guys. Today i finally called it off with him :) and now it is hurting like anything :( :'(.
You did the right thing. The pain is temporary like everyone is saying. You will feel better soon enough :). Do whatever you need to do in the meantime to take care of yourself. just dont get in touch with him - that will bring you back to the friendship that will hurt.
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Another route is fwb. Just putting it out there.
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Really you don't need to stay friends with this guy. Do you really want to be friends with a person that looks like the person that broke your heart? There are so many other people you can be friends with.