I am in a great confusion and need you people’s valuable suggestion.
There was a guy, and we both were in love with each other. We met in college and soon after he moved back from here after getting done with the education. So we stayed in contact over the phone and emails, etc. It went on like that for over 3 years. His mom didn’t agree for it and didn’t agree for marriage . We both went through lots of tortures from our family and finally we called it off 2 and a half years ago.
After around 6 months of breakup, we decided to remain as friends. Then I found another guy. And I told my ex about him and as soon as I told him about the new guy, he never wrote me back.
And the things with the new guy too didn’t work out and that ended too.
And about my ex, I got to hear from one of his family members that he is still not able to forget me and that has made him more bitter now and now his family blames me for his condition that why did I inform him about the new guy I had got. Then I emailed him, asking him forgiveness but he would not respond back at all.
anyways. The fact is, I am not able to forget him even after over 2 yrs of the break up. So I was just thinking that, shall I give it one last chance? Shall I email him one last time, explaining everything. Plsssss suggest what shall I do. Bcz I really miss him so much.
Your parents don't agree? Neither do his? So if you were to contact him again would you be able to convince your parents? The real problem here is the fact, that both your families are not happy with the marriage. If you can convince your parents, then I don't really see any harm in contacting him and explaining everything. Chances are he probably will reply, probably. However, even if that was to happen you'd be back to square one again...how would you convince your parents?
Sorry I am not really helping. If there is a chance that your parents will agree, then send that email or else let it go. It will be hard at first but time is a great healer. Just give it time and if you really don't have a future with him, tell yourself that ,accept it and try and move on. It's not as impossible as it seems.
hmm .... you are still single ... he is single too ..... both of you are into each other ..... get married !!! .... SIMPLE ....... all you guys have to do is to convince your parents because that is the only reason you broke up to begin with .... yes, e-mail him if you think you can convince your parents about this .......
Listen to bbcd. You want to make sure both of you can convince your parents. Btw you didnt mention why are they not agreeing?. In any case both of you can give this a try. But if it doesnt...please move on. And so as him. I have gone through this...personally so i wouldnt tell and suggest both of you something which a human being cannot do. You will heal with time...so please be patient.
You have not mentioned why your parents and his parents did not agree to the marriage before. So as far as they're concerned, NOTHING may have changed. In which case it's stupid to contact him and put yourself through the same torture all over again.
Talk to your family first. It seems that you're in touch with one of his family members too. If your parents agree to this marriage, then you should tell HIS family member that IF he and his family are willing to go through with the marriage....they can send a rishta b/c your parents will say "yes". Or if your parents are willing, have your parents send a formal rishta. But to contact the guy & allow him back into your life when the families are not willing to say yes to the marriage isn't going to do anyone any good.
BTW, if you want to get over him....start by cutting off ALL communication with him and his family members. Keeping up with his current life/feelings etc. isn't going to help you move on.
Yes, now his family is ready to go ahead with the marriage but only if he agrees now. And now he is not ready to talk to me because he is still mad at this fact that why did I have someone else in my life than him, though it was all after our breakup :S
Yes, now his family is ready to go ahead with the marriage but only if he agrees now. And now he is not ready to talk to me because he is still mad at this fact that why did I have someone else in my life than him, though it was all after our breakup :S
Yes, now his family is ready to go ahead with the marriage but only if he agrees now. And now he is not ready to talk to me because he is still mad at this fact that why did I have someone else in my life than him, though it was all after our breakup :S
Yes, now his family is ready to go ahead with the marriage but only if he agrees now. And now he is not ready to talk to me because he is still mad at this fact that why did I have someone else in my life than him, though it was all after our breakup :S
^The bolded bit. So why do you feel the need to apologize? Six months after a break-up, you both mutually decided to remain friends, correct? You both did not decide to give a romantic relationship a second attempt or chance. If the status of your interactions was only that of "friendship," then you had every right to consider rishtay/other men for marriage and he, too, had the right to consider other women. He cannot stop you, nor can you stop him. So, he shouldn't be getting mad at you for considering another guy when he had decided he just wanted to be friends. Did he expect you to remain single all your life while he kept you as just a "friend"...?
We only have your side of the story to go by, but based on your post....you haven't committed an injustice toward him. He's mad because his ego is wounded at your audacity to consider another guy and to "move on" to another person before he did. That's what it reads like. You've already sent him an email, so just leave him alone and give him space. If he cares enough or cares at all....he knows how to reach you.
He is being pretty unreasonable , don't you think? Assuming he's like this by nature, you willing to put up with such behavior for the rest of your life? Why invite unnecessary stress? It's best to let this go.
....We both went through lots of tortures from our family and finally we called it off 2 and a half years ago....
....I got to hear from one of his family members that he is still not able to forget me and that has made him more bitter now and now his family blames me....
why and for what were you in contact with his family members for if his family was against it? and why were they not okk before and are now?
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The fact is, I am not able to forget him even after over 2 yrs of the break up...
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it seems it didn't work out with the second one and thats why you want to go back to the first one, missing the first one while being with the second one, .... will you start missing the second if you are back to the first ?...
reading the other thread and this thread, the whole thing doesn't makes senses
