Should I contact my best friend?

[Paheli00]

Re: Should I contact my best friend?

@firoz100

I didn’t attend his wedding or contact him during his child’s birth. We drifted apart slowly but he still tried to keep in touch. I feel like he did me wrong in many ways and betrayed me but he was still a close friend. I am getting married soon and want to just tell him how I feel or should I just let bygones be bygones and leave everything as it is?

You felt that this guy betrayed you more than once and you sent a strong message of how you felt by not attending his wedding or even congratulating him on his child’s birth. He tried to keep in touch but sounds like YOU are the one who cut off contact.

I would not contact someone in a situation like that. If you tell him how you feel, he will also tell you how he feels and you may not like what you hear. What he tells you may cause you to get upset and will effect your mood in the upcoming weeks/months leading up to your wedding. Why go back into your past and open a negative door right before such a happy occasion?

Get married and settle down. Once you’ve been married a few months or so…if you still feel the urge to contact this guy to share your feelings, then re-evaluate it at that time.