Re: Should i be a loving or controling husband?
Sara, loads of desi families here in the UK still think this way, sad but true..
To the OP u know deep down what the best way to be with ur wife is, go with ur instinct and treat her nicely, don't let family interfere too much cos am sure u know best how to deal with ur situation better than they do. Hate to say it but often even members of our own families have their own agendas, I mean honestly does it seem right to u to be controlling towards ur wife? When boys (or girls) let their parents have too much influence in these situations this is where problems start to arise and then before u know it u end up in one huge mess, best to say in as nice a way as possible to ur parents and other family members ur a grown man and ur relationship with ur wife is between u and her. I have seen wayyy too many cases of marriages going sour simply because inlaws (usually the boys side) have felt the need to get too involved and destroy what would otherwise be happy marriages.