NJMasti
October 28, 2009, 2:04pm
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So you are now married to a complete stranger but one who was chosen for you by your parents. It sounds to me like the parents on both sides of this marriage are all involved in the marriage and the only people who are NOT involved in the marriage are the HUSBAND and the WIFE!!!
Your intentions and desire - to have a good marriage and to be a good husband - are so very honorable and nice. You need to step back at this point from the family interferences, demands, wayward offerings of advice and just focus on being a good husband to your wife. And tell her this, along with the suggestion that she do the same.
Respect your parents and hers for sure. But that doesnt mean that you have to follow their instructions and advice. Tell them nicely and politely “ok” and just go about the business of establishing your relationship with your new wife in the manner that you WANT to, not in the manner that you’re told to by your parents or hers.
If the parents see you and your wife being polite but going about your life happily and in your own way, they’ll eventually cool their jets and settle down.
MO3 … lol… don’t you think this is like a “love marriage” for “parents” cause they are the ones who setup this whole thing… and now the “parents” want divorce the “parents”… cause they don’t get along.
Poor hubby and wify - just feel sorry for them cause they are stuck in a situation.
Parents have no shame in playing with the lives of their kids. So sad.