Re: Should i be a loving or controling husband?
I would consider breaking off the marriage.
Sorry to sound harsh, but you're families aren't talking.
This girl is from Pakistan, most of the girls from there ARE chalaak.
You really think, when she get's to where you're living she will stay out of it?? At the moment she is not saying anything as to not rock the boat and get out of Pakistan.
When she gets to the UK, (or wherever you're living) she's going to make her point known.
No girl will stay quiet whilst she hears anyone (in this case your parents) for whatever reason insult her parents.
The guys in the UK/US are too soft and the girls from Pakistan are the opposite.
Trust me, you will have issues. She will try and create wedge between you and your parents and eventually you will be alienated from your own family.
Either get both sets of parents to sort their issues out, even this is not an ideal situation as people hold grudges, or break off the marriage.