should guy and grl talk n meet before mariage??

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Re: should guy and grl talk n meet before mariage??

I have been more successful in life looking out for others. And I hope to find someone the same :slight_smile: unfortunately so far everyone ive met have only looked out for themselves, if marriage is about taking care and being a companion than someone looking out just for themselves just makes me run miles away from that person.

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I think..you’re taking this very negative way. By looking after yourself..is to protect ya’re self away from people whom ya rather don’t want to be with. And you can only tell by meeting with them.

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Islamically: No
Generally: Why not

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Even though i know this is being sarcastic. It’s not harram anywhere so plz dont put those labels jokingly either , we have enuf quack mullahs doing that for us.

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So generally you can talk to a guy** unless **you want to marry him? :smack:

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You can do whatever you want. There is no right or wrong unless someone is getting hurt.

Whatever rocks your boat :wink:

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Re: should guy and grl talk n meet before mariage??

Absolutely paramount the two should meet and talk and develop an understanding of each other before they proceed with any notion of marriage or a serious relationship. I personally believe dating is a far better way of building the foundations of a marriage than just getting an arranged marriage. I also believe that one should spend a year or more together in the relationship before they get married. A lot of times in the case of my female friends is that they get swept away in idealistic notions of marriage and do not notice the worrying signs. Additionally in our culture women are forced to bare the brunt of all domestic and spousal abuse from the husband or in laws and in that regard it is important to meet the guy, meet his parents. Talk to everybody in the family meet them and then decide if marriage is a good idea. Women need to be more proactive about defending their rights and they should have the final say.

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I often wonder why some parents think this way as well..

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80% Mullahs without knowledge preaching 20% culture-haww haye stuff*.*

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i will be honest wth you :slight_smile:
if its mine then yes
if its yours then no :hehe:

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:cb: You know you’ve blundered big-time if even Monk gets sarcastic.

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I don’t think I am taking it negative. Maybe meeting is important for some people. But if everyone just looks out for themselves then how on earth would you be able to care for someone else? I just don’t think that way and I like people who are not always worried about what’s best for them.

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NOOOOOOOO. *gets the haraam rifle out and starts firing at anyone who does.

did you seriously just ask that.

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Absolutely no need for this. If as a girl, you are concerned about compatibility and shizz, ask to be showed the kitchen just to see if countertop is at the right height for kneading, and rolling and chopping…activities that would occupy most of your time after shaadi.

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Re: should guy and grl talk n meet before mariage??

in Barney Stinson voice
*
Hulahoop Queen, haaaaaaaave you met Xtron?*

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Can I come to the wedding? :flowers:

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What makes you think all the marriages from our grandparents/parents generation are successful? Just because they stayed married?

During those times…decades ago…divorce was a major taboo. Women were almost outcasts in society if they chose to end a marriage. In addition, often the women were not educated OR they didn’t have the skills necessary to financially support themselves. Heck even today…MANY women choose to stay in a marriage even though they’re unhappy simply b/c they can’t support themselves financially and/or they’re scared of the backlash of a divorce from their family/community. I don’t think a marriage can be considered “successful” just b/c the two people didn’t get divorced. Staying married doesn’t always equal being happy.

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kee faraq painda hai ? If you are the type who finds keeray in every person then you will find million reasons why not to marry this person, and khuda na khwaasta if you are the gullible filmy type then you are going to fall for the person if he/she says 2 good things that you agree with. That said do what you think is right, there is no right or wrong answer.

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Most definitely