Should anyone in love be able to get married? Is love enough to get through the entire life…i myself get tired of things (n people) really easily …im afraid ib be able to spend my life with one person..:o (im seious here actually)..i might change my view when i find someone who i truely love..but what do u think is required for a successful marriage ( same social class? etleat college graduate..? can one be a high school drop-out and other b a med school graduate?) …n how would u know ur “fit” enough to get married?
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you only need 2 things to have successful marriage.. patience and understanding.. rest will come by itself. If you already love/like someone and intent to get married then by all means go ahead it will get stronger as long as those two basics are intact.
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Love is so full of crap.
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Love is simply beautiful....
Yes you need paitence and understanding in married life i agree with ansoo here but you know something. With those two things you live but you are not alive. Love with NO conditions is extremely beautiful and love with conditions happens in our country every day.
I see these uncles and aunties fighting when they are doing grocery and it amazes me. They have 4 little kids right behind them but arguing over stupid little stuff. I see aunties getting pissed off at uncle etc uncle staying late at night. When love is there you have this enormous amount of care for that person. You want to do things for him and his family. You know you can be yourself and he or she would accept you cause they know you. Pure love can touch your soul very deeply and i think conditional love can only touch one's heart.
Marriage is also based on trust. I can guarantee you those who do have arranged marriages asked them if their spouses know all of their secrets... we all have them. Its always a good thing to share them yeah there are few which we die with. But to have that trust with someone speical and share your life with them just makes life perfect.
Love just happens and you know something you would never want to change anything about them. Its that warm feeling deep inside you while you are walking in snow.
uff i can go on and on forever....
fobulous... those who get their true love as their life partners live amazing lives.... I have seen it mashallah they bring very good human beings in the society as well.
pcg- ouch- there is no gain without pain... and pain of love has its own pleasure *wink....
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um. no.
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wow..nicely put! seems to me u r soooo in loveee...
but love can be sooo confusing..i wish i could read people's mind!
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I agree nia khan
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for a marriage to work out you must learn how 2 compromise and you need to understand eachother. Once there is understanding there will be trust and care for eachother. Love is something that constantly develops and grows and is something so great, a wonderful treasure. Love grows after one gets intimate and later on has kids its on its peak!
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Agree with you…
That’s why Im still single 
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Nia Khan well put, my feeling exact :) Fab, I believe that noone else can be a better partner than ur own best friend, at least thanx to Allah thats true for me.
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really well said nia_khan… just one thing i dont agree with though…
my parents argue about silly things all the time..but by no means does it mean that their love isnt special.. or that its not true love… it is..its just with time things change.. or maybe the relationship thrives on lil arguments to keep it going..i find it cute..
i myself am a lil trouble maker and start arguments for no reason… but i love my mister soo much and i trust him completely.. theres patience and understanding and trust and love.. which makes a marriage a good marriage… if a couple dont argue, thats great… but it doesnt make their relationship anymore special or better than a couple who do argue 
every marriage is special 
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you dont have to fall in love then get married... like when i married my husband, there was nothing i could say LOVE, (arranged marriage) but when i got to know more about him, the deeper in love i fell. And now, I start everyday knowing how much i love him and how thankful i am to Allah to have him as my husband.
its true, we do argue sometimes and get angry with eachother, but these things help you fall more in love with eachother.
and yes, marriage is a very sacred relationship. even if you dont know a bit about the other person, its from ALLAH who plants the seed of love if ur heart and compromising is in our hands. Because no one is perfect, you have to ignore the other persons faults.
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thank you all
There was this speaker ( i think it was last year during ramadan), he talked bout how the love comes "after" the marriage. There is no love before marriage, Allah put mercy on each indivisual's heart...n love before marriage is a western concept. I agree with him to the point- there are so many things you learn about a person after u start living with him/her...so in a way you actually get o know the "real" person "after" the marriage.