discuss her marital problems with her own family (like mother or sister)? Why yes, and why not?
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no. why should she discuss with her man/soul mate/husband?
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no. why should she discuss with her man/soul mate/husband?
So does that mean the husband shouldn't discuss marital problems with his family either?
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So does that mean the husband shouldn't discuss marital problems with his family either?
exactly.
i will suggest to take guidance on general affairs, but discussing marital affairs with family member is big NO NO.
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exactly.
i will suggest to take guidance on general affairs, but** discussing marital affairs with family member is big NO NO**.
why not?
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OP, is this thread about you?
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OP, is this thread about you?
just want to know...
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cute ainee - it depends what kind of problem it is and how far the issue has gone
for example if a husband is super tharki or having affair and he is not listening to you, you guys had a number of chat but he doesnt seem to behave, then one can talk and must talk to their family so put things straight or find a solution
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why not?
we skip our weaknesses when describing problem and portray another spouse as monster.
families usually behave like my child is always correct.
spouse get lose respect.
and most importantly you guys are married, why do you need third party in your matter. you both should have enough confidence with each other to share your problem and get along with each other. if you are not that good then whole purpose of marriage is baseless.
my two cents.
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Of course you shouldn't. Im not even married and even I know that. The minute you start badmouthing your hubby, your parents will always have a bad view of him. You might forget why you were annoyed with him the next day but your family will hold a grudge against him because of it.
Also, i would have thought Islamically its not a good idea because the affairs a hubby and wife are best kept to themselves, and if you genuinely need advice then go to someone who can remain neutral and discreet.
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No you should come on GS and have it validate your opinion and actions like most married women do in Life1 
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nahi STA, there situations where there is a genuine issues and the matter has gone beyond just the two.
then you have to talk to someone who is sound, understands your problem and can help you in the right way. if a husband is having an affair, he is fooling around and not listening the wife has no where to go for help.
nobody has to bad mouth their spouse, or anything of that sort
a girl can go to her brother and tell her bhai my husband is doing this this and this and i have tried that that and that, its not working, what should i do, i want to make this marriage work...
we skip our weaknesses when describing problem and portray another spouse as monster.
families usually behave like my child is always correct.
spouse get lose respect.
and most importantly you guys are married, why do you need third party in your matter. you both should have enough confidence with each other to share your problem and get along with each other. if you are not that good then whole purpose of marriage is baseless.
my two cents.
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nahi STA, there situations where there is a genuine issues and the matter has gone beyond just the two.
then you have to talk to someone who is sound, understands your problem and can help you in the right way. if a husband is having an affair, he is fooling around and not listening the wife has no where to go for help.
nobody has to bad mouth their spouse, or anything of that sort
obviously, extreme cases need sensible middle man.
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bilkul - one must not go to his/her faimly right away for every tiny issue, but there comes a time when you have to go for perhaphs bigger situations,
obviously, extreme cases need sensible middle man.
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discuss her marital problems with her own family (like mother or sister)? Why yes, and why not?
If the "marital problems" include a situation where the wife or the children is being abused or the wife fears for her safety....then definately yes. If the "marital problem" is serious enough where the wife is actually seriously considering filing for divorce....then yes.
However....if we're talking about general little tiffs and arguments that spouses have....or if the wife is merely annoyed by her husband and needs to vent....then no. I would NEVER want to risk my mother (or another family family) member accidently blurting out something in front of my husband that would give my husband a clue that I have discussed my "issues" with them (especially if I want to continue my marriage). Also, if I want to continue my marriage....I would want MY family to like my husband and would not do anything that would make them lose respect for him.
Seeking advice from MY family members in a situation where my safety is threatened OR I'm about to end my marriage: Yes.
"Discussing" or "venting" about daily little issues to my family: No. This is why I have friends (and of course, gupshup).
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Rarely, and only after discussing with her hubby and attempting to work things out and exhausting all other options that she herself can think of. Also, I think I would go to the sister before the mother, especially if sis is married. Then it's more like confiding rather than telling on him.
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hahaha…word!
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Didn't we already have a thread on this?