Shiyaa Sunni marriage

sameenji · December 10, 2007, 4:01pm

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Deekho man mera plan hit hai...

Dono bhag kar shaadi karte hain ...right?
Shaadi ho gai,dono khush hain.
Ab pata hai unko kya karna chahye...Larki larke ko suni karde...

Dono apne parents kay paas jaein,maafi mange,jo kar sakte hain karein...
Phir mujhe umeed hai sab man jayeinge....(kyonki maa baap bacho ki her ghalti maaf karte hain...hain na)

Bas kahani khatam....HAppy ending.:)

Lusi · December 10, 2007, 4:04pm

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if the larka makes the larkee shia...is it still a happy ending?

Man_with_a_Plan · December 10, 2007, 4:05pm

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plan acha hai yaar magar loog bhaag ke shadi kiyon kerte hain? shadi chal ke or jog ker ke bhi ki ja sakti hai.

sameenji · December 10, 2007, 4:10pm

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Marzi hai...waise larke ko larki ki baat mani chahye...

N man with a plan ab agar shaadi hone main itne khatre hoon tu jaldi jaldi karni hoti hai aur jaldi jaldi to bhaag kay hi ho sakti hai....
Kaisa....??

:D

Man_with_a_Plan · December 10, 2007, 4:17pm

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take a cab

Sara516 · December 10, 2007, 5:36pm

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sameenji how old are you?

kaun · December 10, 2007, 5:36pm

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sameenji, things are so simple in ur world ehhh :k:

kaun · December 10, 2007, 5:37pm

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lol believe it or not i had the same question in ma mind

Sara516 · December 10, 2007, 5:40pm

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unless she's a 12 year old posting, no adult can be that naive.

kaun · December 10, 2007, 6:05pm

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no comments :ducking and leaving the thread quietly:

Afro-Sheen · December 10, 2007, 7:29pm

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It depends on the couple, how strong each of their beliefs are..and family. How much family input are they each willing to accept, and is the guy/girl willing to take a stand if the families try to butt in, with what they THINK is the way the kids should be raised..or even if they try to tell guy/gal to change the other one. I personally would advise against it, there can be many unforeseen problems later down the road. I know of a couple where while they were madly in love & wanted to get married, and made promises to each other how they'd respect each other's views....but that changed once kids came into the picture. The guy promised his family's views wouldn't be imposed on her or kids. However when the time came, he wasn't able to stand up and tell his family not to butt in. So they had a lot of strife.

desigirl786 · December 10, 2007, 9:28pm

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this is something only them 2 can decide...eventually reality sets and if the girl is patient and willing to accept him as a ****e and the differences they might have in their religious lives in the long term then she should go for it but if she is lying to herself and saying "no i love him we can make it through anything" then i suggest she talk to him and get to understand his family and their life style alot better

Ask99 · December 11, 2007, 3:42am

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Paheli

It depends on the couple, how strong each of their beliefs are..and family. How much family input are they each willing to accept, and is the guy/girl willing to take a stand if the families try to butt in, with what they THINK is the way the kids should be raised..or even if they try to tell guy/gal to change the other one. I personally would advise against it, there can be many unforeseen problems later down the road. I know of a couple where while they were madly in love & wanted to get married, and made promises to each other how they’d respect each other’s views…but that changed once kids came into the picture. The guy promised his family’s views wouldn’t be imposed on her or kids. However when the time came, he wasn’t able to stand up and tell his family not to butt in. So they had a lot of strife.

How is the couple now..I mean what happened with the kids.
This particular person I know , I think they both wont be living in a joint family system. At the same time I do think they are young in trying to think what may happen later on, basically the reprecussions on kids etc…Im just confused:konfused:..I guess emotions have gotten the best of me since its a close relative

Afro-Sheen · December 11, 2007, 3:25pm

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In one word, the kids are Confused. Its pretty much a battle between the guy's family (parents) being overly involved and trying to influence the religion the kids learn...where as the wife is struggling otherwise. And is a cause of strife cuz it goes back to, well we promised we wouldn't let others interfere....but he is letting parents interfere. By the way they don't live in a joint family system, but they do visit/talk on phone etc.
And let me tell you, the situation could get worse if at some point in life, one of them gets more "religous" (for a lack of better words) or develops a stronger faith in his or her belief...then what? what if she doesn't want to budge, or he doesnt want to budge. The children will just be confused and in the middle. And aside from children, it can turn into a battle between spouses/families...etc. Again it depends on couple and whether they can follow thru with their promises from day 1...and talk about it upfront and decide how they plan to handle such situations. Or if they are willing to work thru any problems that arise and settle them between husband and wife ONLY.