My friend got a rishta from this nice guy but is hesitating in responding. For the first little why we couldnt figure out why but now we think it may have to do with the fact that we used to make fun of him. She would also make fun of him too. We live in a small community where everyone knows everyone and we used to just joke about him being weird and stuff…
Now we’re older and we’ve totally stopped but I think she thinks we dont like him. One of our friends went up to her and said “hes really nice dont think i dont like him” and she took it the wrong way (by assuming that she liked him).
We just dont know how to explain to her…
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How else will you explain it to her if you don't sit her down and talk to her? It's really the only way. So here's what you do:
You and your other friends sit your friend down and talk to her. Start off by telling her that you girls think he's a nice guy. And be more specific. Share his positive qualities with her. Is he caring, friendly, smart, etc? And then be honest with her. Tell her, "We honestly think he's a really nice guy and would make a good potential partner. He's much older now and not the same person we used to make fun of before. He's changed. But if you personally don't like him.....then that's fine and we respect your decision. We just didn't want you to think we don't like him because that's not the case. Ultimately it's your decision and we'll support you either way."
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^ Agree, be straight with the girl.
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Leave her alone and allow her to make her own decisions?
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IF you dont like him whats that got to do with her marrying him.....she should be old enough to know that all the teasing took place when you were kids, and at that age we all take the mickey out each other anyway. but when we are older we are meant to forget these things as childsplay, i dnt think it should interfere in her decisions.....
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^ Nadz, some people are not mature or confident enough to make a decision like this without encouragement from friends. Hopefully in time she will mature and not consider her friends before herself, but at the moment it looks like she needs to know.
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I was gonna say something but I better not...
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why things you friends dont like about the guy?
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I was gonna say something but I better not...
Intrigued, say it...