Assume I and a guy love each other and we want to get married.
However, his cousin (who is 2 years older than him) likes MY guy. when he was born, his aunty had said to him mom “this boy is mine” (meaning I want him to get married to one of my daughters). However his mom said “I cant promise u anything yet cuz when they group up they may not even like each other in that way”.
anyway, now that they’re both grown up, the girl likes him…but he doesnt like her. he just sees her as a real sister…and therefore can never see her as anything else. However about a year ago, this girl actually went to him and told him that she likes him and wants to marry him. he explained to her that shes a nice girl etc…but he doesnt like her in that way and doesnt want to marry her. he has even made this clear to his mom.
anyway…now his mom and everyone know that he likes and wants to marry another girl. his parents seem to agree with his choice.
However, I just want to know what should be done about his cousin? assuming she still likes him and tries her best to show it…how is he supposed to behave with her. and what about the new girl (who the guy likes) …how is she supposed to take this? is she supposed to ignore it and act normal with that cousin of his?
invite her but w/ good feelings
shes probably mature enough to realize that they arent meant to be and to give the new couple her blessing
being cruel will only make her dwell even more on the guy, help her move on too
Don't take offense and get angry. She should be invited, since she is his cousin and everyone else will be invited. Making an issue of it will make everything much worse.
Don't rush her into marriage, but encouraging her to meet other potential mates might be a good idea.
learn to sacrifice and kindly hand him over to her ..
emm..on a second thought be humane towards her because today what do you think is yours might Not be yours tomorrow
How would you like to be treated if you were in that cousin's place? (or if you're not the concerned lady yourself, then ask that of whoever is in the position). Act accordingly.
However, I just want to know what should be done about his cousin? assuming she still likes him and tries her best to show it.....how is he supposed to behave with her. and what about the new girl (who the guy likes) ....how is she supposed to take this? is she supposed to ignore it and act normal with that cousin of his?
Nothing should be done, as u said he thinks of her as just a sister. She's the one who is trying to go after a taken man, u don't have to go down to her level and make things worse or by taking revenge etc...i wud think naturally, u both r wanting to avoid this cousin as much as possible. But when he is around her, i suppose he still has to respect her but it's probably best not to be too chatty, and keep it simple u know. And if i was the girl, i wud ignore her. Just be content in the fact that he is urs, and sooner or later she'll back off.
