Uh…this is odd…(but an improvement from the timidity/rigidness in the bedroom thread). I guess all of the above are applicable. But…in order for the relationship to work, there needs to RECIPROCITY. It shouldn’t just be her showing respect to your family and accommodating to your needs all the time. You need to show her the same consideration. People (regardless of gender) feel more motivated to show some caring…when they see that the other person cares about them as well (in words and actions).