She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

Lifestyle Relationships
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lol... True.

Need to learn so much...;)

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IF the man whose eyes are tested with the lust of such clothing, is not her husband. In other words, if she is testing the 'Imaan' of a stranger, who is willing to keep his eyes lower to protect it from na-mehram, but is NOT ABLE to keep his eyes lower to the extent that he keep hitting the road signs, poles...etc. Then:

She might attract many men (by looking so called "HOT" in a spiritually dirty way) but her *this *actions remains ugly in the sight of Allah (swt) and the prophet (saw)

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

So what are the ways she could win him? or try to win him?

Making him feel like a man? ( it is very strong point)

Remembering his birthday?

Giving or sending him card on every ocassion?

Never bash his family before marriage

Even try to show him he is very good man to care for his family..till they get married

Planning every vacation focusing "just him" and no one but him?

Be playful and agreable to anything in bed?

Be proactive and tell him how bad he is not contacting his family regularly........

etc.

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correction: its funnyeth

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

Okay on a more serious note Diwana (so MOds don't come here and delete the little bit of humor in this thread)....

Here are some ideas (keep in mind that culture plays a role and desi culture is conservative...making it trickier).

1) Does she take an interest in you, your life? /Flow of conversation

2) Eye contact, smiling, etc

3) Proximity

5) Praise

6) As mentioned before...clothing/perfume, etc...can be a means

7) Sometimes playing hard to get even, as Zobi mentioned.

*******Mind you, that some of these signs can also just be friendliness...(personalities vary), and lack of interest can be misconstrued as "playing hard to get" as well.

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Sure. Like the term. :)

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Please do not talk about 3) :hayaa:

**Playing hard to get is out of fasion by the way. **(Maybe not always)

But as FYI: With so many other choices, both men and women just simply get bored and annoyed by someone playing hard.

They say: OK. Play hard at home by yourself. See ya!

These days: Ask directly:

Do you want me to take you to lunch or I send my parents to your house? Yes or no is expected.

OR

Guy tells gal: Call me whenever you want. If she does not. She loses.

:rotfl:

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

I've serious objection to # 1 & 4 in the opening post. For any thing meaningful and serious, these would be non-starters, from a guy's POV.

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Uh....this is odd....(but an improvement from the timidity/rigidness in the bedroom thread). I guess all of the above are applicable. But.....in order for the relationship to work, there needs to RECIPROCITY. It shouldn't just be her showing respect to your family and accommodating to your needs all the time. You need to show her the same consideration. People (regardless of gender) feel more motivated to show some caring....when they see that the other person cares about them as well (in words and actions).

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I listed it as a possibility among others…and not as a be all/end all signal. I even included the exception for it.

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That was for ligitimate, unconditional relationship…You have a great memory!

Here it is about how to entice a man for him to get attracted and be committed.

Agree with rest.

OK. Go it.

My point here is to talk about the ways women try to allure men.

I mean, this goes from using technology to their personal assets (:hehe:) to what they find lacking in men to be used as means to grab him.

Not bashing women or praising men here. Not by any means. Feel free to give opposite view.

All I am trying to bring something in to light which possibly other men have experienced…if they did.

There are tricks to make any woman get interested with some assurance :slight_smile:

So why not vice versa?

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

100 . A home cooked meal :bummer:

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

7. The fake laugh. Oh geez, the fake laugh. Like they find anything you say funny. Even if your cat died. Yea a girl I used to be friends with did this.

RV, why are you a cupcake now???? Confuzzled here.....

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^ I'm still RV.

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Yes..

She even tries to BBQ for the man…and in turn burns her hair looking in to the grill too closely when she should not be…:frowning:

and when he comes he says. …sniff sniff…did something burn?

.. trust me it does happen…:hehe:

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Are these with the intention of marriage? If so, then number 4 will come back to haunt her later on.

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

The way to the man's heart is through his stomach. Food.

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Re: She is trying heel/hair (Aeri-Choti) to get him attracted

Anybody else find the title confusing? What's an aeri choti?

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^High heels and lambi sunahray sayaah chamakdaar baal/choti :p

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Yep..lol!

RV you need to be educamated as X2 would say....:p