She had a baby

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I dont think you should be doing anything....

How come you didnt know when she got married the second time? were u not invited or told? :s if thats the case... ur friendship was ended then...

its hard to forget and move on, when thigns like this happen... but i think youre already int he process of moving on, sicne uve not been in touch with her (i dont count facebook and texting only as contact)

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What's happening with your friend sucks. I know I would have felt heartbroken if the same has happened to me. Whilst we should not be selfish in relationships and do things because we expect something in return, we do have a right to expect the same care and consideration we show to our friends. Clearly she doesn't care, having a hard time or being busy is not an excuse for not valuing a friendship. When you messaged her, her response should have been 'hi yes I'm sorry we haven't talked in so long this is what's happening with me now and nice to hear from you'.

In my opinion you should move on and delete her from facebook. You did everything you could out of the goodness of your heart, and whether she appreciates it or not that's all that matters. You already are the bigger person, but being a bigger person doesn't have to mean continuing to forgive peoples mistakes if they're being dick to you just so you can say you are the bigger person.

Every relationship has a give and take and clearly this relationship was nothing but giving from you side and therefore this relationship should end. You have behaved as a true friend througout and that's all that should matter to you. Move on and learn from your mistake, maybe be a bit more cautious with choosing friends in the future. Even then this could happen again, you can't always tell what a person will turn out like. But as long as you've done the best you can I think you should be proud of yourself and accept that sometimes things don't work out the way we would have wished.

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By the way, this kind of behavior is not acceptable. I can imagine a high schooler getting carried away and behaving like this, but even that is not okay. If people behave like this they ARE NOT GOOD PEOPLE. Stay away from them.

I hope things get better for you. Also remember Eleanor Roosevelt's famous words, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Except in very extreme situations, we teach people how to treat us through our interactions with them and the way we feel about ourselves.

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She got married under hectic circumstances. According to her, her nearest friends were there. When she told me this, and later changed her number and upon me asking why she didnt send it to her reply was: Well people change over time - thats where I realized it the hard way!

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Thanks everyone for each of your response.

I have written on her FB wall but am not going to do anything more. not going to send flowers or gifts and not going see her when I am visiting my hometown in a few weeks.

Sahar02, I agree that one is treated like one lets people treat one and I have come to realize this the hard way over the years and am still struggling not to become a door mat. I have literally cut off so many people from my life cuz I have realized that its not healthy friendships and now I am actually enjoying myself.

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some ppl can't be changed by good deeds. so if u really wanna get more burns send her congrats, go see her baby, giv baby a gift etc otherwise ignore n move on and stop seeing her profile.

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the best thing would be to give her some space and cut her off to be honest....it seems u are good enough for her to dump her sorrows on but not to share her hapiness..

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I think you did the right thing by not sending any flowers or gifts. Cut every contact with her and don't look back. It's her loss, not yours!