There is a guy who runs his dad’s hi-fi business…lets just say he is loaded. In his office there are 6-7 women working and 2-3 men working and they have a friendly work atmosphere. A new girl joins the office and she is different from other girls as in she doesnt give much bhav 2 the boss like the other girls do going after him saying sir sir sir…lol. The guy fells for this new girl as i guess the one who plays hard to get always attracts (!?!). Anywayz when the guy’s parents come to know about this they fire that girl from the office. They are not ready to let their boy get married to some1 who is not of their status. Anywayz, the guy knows that the girl is the only bread earner for her family as her dad is on bed-rest n her siblings are young and still studying. So the guy goes to the girl’s home and offers to recommend her for some job or even lend her money until she gets another job. The girl and her mother rejects their offer as they are not comfortable getting help from anybody else. Anywayz, as the guy is about to leave their place…he stops and proposes to the girl but the girl and her mother rejects again because they feel they are of no standard to match the guy’s social standard. But the guy is admant and asks the girl to think about it again and gives her 2-3 days to decide. Within these 2-3 days the girls get a job too but when she mets with the guy again she is not able to say no to his proposal as perhaps she developed feelings for him too. So seeing that the girl’s mother agreed to their marriage and both of them get married without the guys family’s approval.
The guy starts living in a seperate flat with his wife. Everything was going great for them in start but suddenly things started changing between them. The girl got back to her normal routine i.e her job n her family. The guy complained of the girl not giving him the time she should. Also, he thought perhaps after getting married to him she would try and change herself little bit in oder to appear not alien among the social gatherings of his standard. But girl was busy with her job and after job she often spent time at her parents home. This left less time for the couple to spend together and that irked the husband. Also the fact that his wife was working didnt leave him happy because often his family/friends would taunt him about that. He was ready to help his in-laws financially but again they were not ready to get help from him. This kept going on for a year and they had a baby too. Now the guy wants out of the relationship because he feels the girl is not giving him the time a wife should to his husband. And even their kid is being taken care of by a maid where as the girl doesnt have to do a job to provide for the family.
So what do you think about this situation? How can it be solved?. Who is going wrong here?.
aray baba tell the girl to quit the job, attend kitty parties, bring her parents over to her house, get an english maid for her kiddie, and live happily!
for the guy.. pahle aql ghas chrnay gaye hoye thi!!
oh by the way, did you forget to mention that he just appointed a new girl at his office?!?!?
the guy is an idiot, and the girl/her family are even more idiotic, if not downright lunatic.
how could he propose to her having just seen her. and how did she develop 'feelings' for him after seeing him only a few times? did the guy's wealth play a role?
There would appear to be a problem in her preferring to spend time with her parents rather than with him.
But then again, them having a kid means he should put his happiness aside and instead provide a stable environment for their child.
But how exactly is that possible when there seems to be no compatibility between the husband and wife?. Should he take up with her prefering her duty 2wards her family and ignoring her duties as a wife?.
the guy is an idiot, and the girl/her family are even more idiotic, if not downright lunatic.
how could he propose to her having just seen her. and how did she develop 'feelings' for him after seeing him only a few times? did the guy's wealth play a role?
They happen to work 2gether in the office and perhaps thats how the guy developed feeling for her and later she did too for him or was just too impressed with his interest in her and her family.
They happen to work 2gether in the office and perhaps thats how the guy developed feeling for her and later she did too for him or was just too impressed with his interest in her and her family.
You made it sound more dramatic than that.. the guy was at her place offering to lend money to her... and then suddenly pops out a marriage proposal, which is initially rejected but then accepted because the girl "realises" she has feelings.
You made it sound more dramatic than that.. the guy was at her place offering to lend money to her... and then suddenly pops out a marriage proposal, which is initially rejected but then accepted because the girl "realises" she has feelings.
Here's a scenerio..
.... The guy fells for this new girl as i guess the one who plays hard to get always attracts (!?!). .... Anywayz, as the guy is about to leave their place...he stops and proposes to the girl but the girl and her mother rejects again because they feel they are of no standard to match the guy's social standard. But the guy is admant and asks the girl to think about it again and gives her 2-3 days to decide. Within these 2-3 days the girls get a job too but when she mets with the guy again she is not able to say no to his proposal as perhaps she developed feelings for him too. ...............
i think it made it clear...but if u still didnt get it i apologize for not having very good writting ability.
Men are emotional jack asses. He did the same. In emotions he proposed and every thing, but never discussed future plans and if she is ready to change and every thing.
Anyways, done is done. Now man should grow some balls and tell her wife to stay at home, as she has more obligation to her child and husband.
On the other hand, he should find some other source of income for his in-laws and ask his wife that if there is any other reason that she is still working and ignoring him.
Men are emotional jack asses. He did the same. In emotions he proposed and every thing, but never discussed future plans and if she is ready to change and every thing.
Anyways, done is done. Now man should grow some balls and tell her wife to stay at home, as she has more obligation to her child and husband.
On the other hand, he should find some other source of income for his in-laws and ask his wife that if there is any other reason that she is still working and ignoring him.
I am curious to know how do you fit in this picture ? Your family friends ? Your acquaintances ? Your neighbors ? Can you please share this so that I can share my thoughts too. I want to be sure that it is a real life situation not a filmi story .
i already said its a real situation and i dont see how it matters your knowing how i fit into this?!?...but ya if it helps in any way to u than ya i saw this issue discussed on tv.
he's just being a baby. a couple can find ways to spend time together and make it meaningful even if it's a little time. on the other hand, they can spend all day together and it may lack depth/quality.
it's hard from this story to guage her story but i would say based on the information provided, he should grow up a little. marriage is not oh boo hoo she's not paying attention to me, she didn't change, i want out.
he should have just dated her if that's how he wants to deal with it. b/c from the story, it appears he hasn't even discussed this issue with her . . . and i say discuss b/c discuss is very different from demanding.
they need to both sit down with some chai, have a nice and calm discussion and hopefully come to some compromise. the girl ,if she stills work, obv likes her independence, maybe the guy should give her some space and they could set aside a set time each day/week to spend some time together.
I thought so , it sounded too good to be true.
But to help the director of this filmi kahani this is my take. If it was real life the things will not go so bad that the boy will start about thinking to divorce the girl. It takes month and months of nagging, negotiations , bad mouthing etc to get this kind of filmi story marriage to get to the point of divorce.
The boy is so nice to marry a poor girl , he has a big heart , he would not go separate ways just because the girl want to help her parents. There is a baby in the house , this girl is so attached to her parents how would she be not attached to her own flesh and blood, her own baby.
The hubby can go and talk to the parents of the girl and make arrangements so that the young brothers and sisters get taken care of and all the bills get paid. He can make those arrangement without even them knowing it . For example he can go to the school of the kids and pay for the whole year of fee. He can talk to the administration to start a scholarship for those kids and he could pay for that scholarships. He can pay 1 year or 5 year rent for the home, the family is living, in advance. Also he can make arrangement that every week or every month an angel leaves all the groceries at the foot steps of the family’s home .
If these two can meet in a filmi style and get married in filmi style why can’t all the other problems be solved in a filmi style ? Sky is the limit for the ways in which all these issues can be resolved in filmi style. I am on a roll here , looks like I have worked as a script writer in my other life. No ?
it was discussed on tv but not filmi…khair believe what u want to i dont think such scenerios dont happen in real life…infact what u r offering 2 advice sounds much more filmi…how the hell can he do all that withuot the girl’s family knowing abt it? do u pay yr school/uni fees only when the college comes after u? and if they dont u ignore it? if they r nt willing 2 get his help how wud they take him helping like that?..u dun make any sense here.
And you clearly are not getting the point cuz the guy doesnt have issue with the girl helping her parents..heck he even offered 2 financially help them without his wife having to do a job for it…but why shud he sacrifice his life for them? he married 2 have a wife not to have some1 who is more interested in providing for her family. Which by no means is wrong but only if that is not done at the expense of somebody else. And dont tell me you have not heard of mothers ignoring their kids…if you havent than its time to get in touch with whats happening around.
it was discussed on tv but not filmi...khair believe what u want to i dont think such scenerios dont happen in real life...infact what u r offering 2 advice sounds much more filmi...how the hell can he do all that withuot the girl's family knowing abt it? do u pay yr school/uni fees only when the college comes after u? and if they dont u ignore it? if they r nt willing 2 get his help how wud they take him helping like that?....u dun make any sense here.
And you clearly are not getting the point cuz the guy doesnt have issue with the girl helping her parents..heck he even offered 2 financially help them without his wife having to do a job for it...but why shud he sacrifice his life for them? he married 2 have a wife not to have some1 who is more interested in providing for her family. Which by no means is wrong but only if that is not done at the expense of somebody else. And dont tell me you have not heard of mothers ignoring their kids...if you havent than its time to get in touch with whats happening around.
