Share Experiences OF Being Second/Middle Child

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In my family i was the middle child and saw how middle children can have a lot of experiences to share.There are numerous researches that now suggest tht infact it is true tht middle children are infact to an extent neglected!

If anyone has childhood good/bad memories of either urself being the middle child or of ur sibblings being the middle ones tht u cn think of…pls do share :slight_smile:

*ill soon share mine too =)

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Yes it is because the Oldest child usually has a Bad Attitude problem :slight_smile:

here is a discussion on that topic, which I think can throw some light on your question:

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-relationships/276515-oldest-child-syndrome.html

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I’m a second child in our family. Its alright :slight_smile:

Its nice because I can still act like “one of the younger ones” and get away with being immature, getting on my mom’s/bros nerves and also, generally parents have more expectations from their oldest child! (initially anyway)

Its NOT nice however, if the oldest child messes up. Because, then its a completely different story :hinna:

But I do like being the second child in the house (yeah listen to me saying it like I had a choice :rotfl: )

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Hey I'm a middle child and I am flanked on either side by 2 brothers...As a kid, I think I always lived under my older brother's shadow. In terms of studies, etc, he was smart and I was too, so when I did as well as he did, it just wasn't a big deal, it was almost expected. In the end though, I think this is a good thing, because I never was under the same pressure to set the bar as he was.

As a kid, I felt a lot of the time, my older bro got the attention b/c he was a really good kid and he was the oldest, so everyone adored him and my little bro got the attention b/c he was cute and mischievous. But since I was the only girl, I also got a lot of attention from my parents. I think it might have been harder if my older or younger sib was a sister, because I think there's a bit more competition.

I'm older now, and all these things have become irrelevant. They have shaped my personality, but now I don't feel like my siblings have an effect on my parent's or others' treatment of me. I stand on my own merit now.

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well i get blamed for everything wrong that goes on in my house. if my mom is mad at someone, she continues to be in a bad mood until she takes her frustration out on me

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I am the best child anyone can hope to have

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Middle children often have a more balanced and stable personality. The eldest have the pressure and responsibilty of being the first in the line. While the youngest often get spoilt by too much pampering and love from everyone.

Still, I am pretty spoilt for a middle child:)

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i know someone who is a middle child and they get neglected completely! their mum worries more about the eldest and the youngest child than the middle child!

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Its alright. Im 2nd.. but yeah it is mega disturbing and traumatising when the eldest one messes up :vivo: And then you have to see ur parents go through all this :hinna: And in some cases restrictions may get placed on you due to the elder ones shortcomings :vivo:

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I am the eldest ..and i rule

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I am the 2nd chlid in my family and 1st as a son :smiley:

To be honest its great, my older sister dont say anything to me and i control the younger ones :hehe:…

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I'm the middle child; i have an older brother and a younger sister.

I can't say that i suffered from "middle child syndrome"..... i rarely felt like i was being ignored, and i definitely don't have any resentment towards my parents for lack of attention. However, i do think that my parents were more demanding of my brother, whereas they had more of a relaxed attitude towards my sister and I. And of course, there was sibling rivalry, but thats a given.

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well my sis is the middle child and she thinks that she doesnt get enough love :(

Wht r u doing ?
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I think it also depends on the gender of the middle child as well. Especially in desi culture.....let's say that the child in the MIDDLE is the ONLY MALE child in the family. In such a scenario, the middle child might receive treatment contradictory to the "middle child" stereotype.

Similarly, if the middle child is the ONLY DAUGHTER....some parents might bestow that "one of a kind" treatment.

It can vary from family to family.

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^ true dat!

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Youngest Rule :aisha:

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I'm a middle child.. i've been spoilt by my parents as well as my elder brother..and I have a 'slave' (sister) that looks upto me! It's great!

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I am also a middle-child. Rumour (unfounded and passionately contested by moi) has it that I was really shararti and had the larger share of scoldings. Though I was the favorite kid of mom! :)

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well we are 3 sister n im the middle child...so im sure u guys understand wat i was put through...

me n my elder sister hav age gap of 2yrs while my younger sis is 5yrs younger to me...as a kid i hated the following:

  • Me getting my sisters used books & sometimes even uniform *my elder sister getting a license n a car as soon as she turned 18 cuz according to dad it was a necessity to hv atleast 2drivers at home but by the time i turned 18 conviniently it wasnt a necessary thing anymore so i hd to w8 fr yrssss bfr i cld get one myself. *the fact that i was the black sheep of my family constntly n to get some attention at home i had to fight wid my elder n younger sisters *my parents concentrated on the eldest sister so much n younger had sooooooooo much unconditional love for herself tht i dino wat i was getting :S *when it came to disipline since i was ALWAYS the black sheep i suffered the consequences the most *i was always compared with how clever my elder sister is n hw beautiful my younger sis is p.s: i m both too lol but they just cldnt get over these two

saying all that this has all shaped the person i have become & even the kina people they hv bcum..due to unconditional love my younger sister is naive n trusts everyone & needs constant support of my parents while my elder sister i feel is a very broad minded free person,shes extremly responsible n im proud to say none of us are into or were ever in any bad habbits n we r a close knit family mashallah but like our morals were stamped n tatoo'd in my head as a part of disipline if she would hav gotten them too maybe shed be fine thn =P

My winning moment came few days back when my younger sister was leaving for canada to do her bachelors n my mom being all senti was giving her warnings n advice as i said shes very naive we all were worried.It was then my mom looked at me n said that yesterday i was talking to ur father & thought if anyone of u 3 were capable of going alone to study abroad with us being secure & relaxed to know that she can handle tht world it was ME
imagine my delight..now i feel waeva happened it was all worth it for the person i have now become =D

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Spoken like an only child!...:)