Why is shallowness become so common? You find so many men and women who don’t love their significant other because of the person they are, but expect their partner to be someone perfect. It’s like they’re in love with an image rather than a human being. Can one really expect a human being to be without flaws or foibles?
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This is so true an very common in today's society, i think the media doesnt help either as it sterotypes and labels ppl in categories, as to what is cool n what is not..
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Interesting point you bring up.
Maybe we are just all in love with a perfect image?
But what responsibility is it on the other person?
Doesnt love mean accepting others faults annnnnddd keeping your other happy. or as close to happy possible.
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there are shades og grey too. what if your significant other has flaws that are entirely within the person’s control. it becomes not a question of love but of differences.
you have two extremes,
between person A and Person B, Person A expects perfection and will never be happy.
Person B does not make an attempt to better himself/herself and claims that person A is looking for perfection.
god forbid if both the extremes are present in a relationship. a person who xpects too much and is unrealistic, and one who is antagonizing and is just not going to even try whether the expectation is valid or not.
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Its took me time to love someone while accepting their faults.
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i wouldn't want my husband to be perfect, it would be too freaky, besides i like some of his "flaws"
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people don't know what love is
they confuse it with lust
they confuse it with self realisation
they confuse it with perfection
but love is a feeling, a bond, that shall not be broken by ego, expectations and selfishness
the one who love never ask anything, the one who love don't care how much t costs to do a thing, it's done out of love, for the betterness of both
love ain't lust, so it never dies with old age
love ain't self realisation so it never dies with life changes
love ain't perfection so it never dies with flaws
But who can pretend to be able to love a "wife"/"husband" ?
very few people.......................................
as my friend would say, most of those who can truly love, know that it is so different from couples bonds that they stay single anyway
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no one falls in love just like that.... sometimes it even takes married couples a few years into the marriage before they realise that "true" love where they stop expecting each other to be perfect and start accepting each other as what they are.
true love is like mother's love. unselfish and not expecting anything in return. if both people in the marriage treat each other with respect and care and concern, i'm sure no one is gonna complaint :D
its all abt making ur better half feel special and cared for.
very importantly, both partners must share this same attitude towards their relationship.
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what being shallow has to do with love and compassion for each other?
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o.m.g. khuda ka khauf karo.
What if…those very “imperfections” make a person so perfect? Perhaps what you see as a flaw is the very image that is ideal to another, is endearing to another? 
Don’t patronise people - I assure you that others retain the capacity to think and philosophise too.
Regarding shallow people, bhai sahib, why do you care so very much?
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Loving images is different from loving a person. I never doubted your capacity to philosophise… but I can’t see why you should take this personally… I’m not saying you are a shallow person.
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Who, other than heathens,( in which case its their business) loves "images"? Who is taking it personally? Why would you **assume **that I am taking this personally? Stop assuming.
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i think you are a realistic :)
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Love in a relationship should be unconditional.
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Well said Arshad!:biggthumb
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Take it easy, it's only a discussion forum...
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..and I was joking?
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take a deep breath
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you may have to talk me through that.