Re: shall I allow my husband to be a part of my daughter’s life? advice needed
I have no idea why you’re trying to play lawyer/judge in this situation. Hasn’t this circus gone on long enough? Within the next few days, contact a good divorce attorney and follow their advice. File for divorce and get a judge to sign off on custody/visitation agreements/times etc.
I have several friends who grew up without a father for one reason or another. All of them turned out fine (ie. they all are highly educated, married…a few have kids of their own etc.). Its not the ideal situation but it’s not going to necessarily hurt a child either. I imagine it sucks to grow up without a father figure…but here is what’s worse in my experience…growing up with a father who is abusive. I have met quite a few women over the years who ended up in abusive relationships…who have very low self-esteem and believe that its ok for a man to hit them, verbally/emotionally abuse them, and that’s what a “normal” marriage should be. All b/c they grew up in a household where they watched their mother being treated like this by their father. It’s a cycle of violence that doesn’t stop b/c no one has the guts to walk-out of the abusive relationship and set a better example for the next generation.
You grew up without a male figure in your life…yet look at what you’ve managed to accomplish. Even living in Pakistan and with a young daughter, you are strong enough to walk away from a situation where you’re being abused. That takes a lot of courage. Think about what you’d want your daughter to do if God forbid she ends up in a abusive marriage in the future. What example do YOU want to set for her?