hey guppies.. choosing the right month of the wedding is alot of work .. we all were thinkin to go down on jan 2008 and get marry my sis first and then 15 days after my bro but now the problem is that
first comes the rozah’s and then muharram followed by the safar mahina.. and after that in march its the kids exams there and then comes april and its too hot to b in pak that time for wedding..
so the question is.. safar ke mahiney mein shaadi karna i know its bad but kya do alot of people do it? is it okay? many people say its not good .. arguments rehte hain mian biwi ke dharmiyan
and alot of people say that we are allowed to everyday is the same and Allah knows what is happenin and yeh baat Quran mein bhi nai likhi
so the question is.. safar ke mahiney mein shaadi karna i know its bad but kya do alot of people do it? is it okay? many people say its not good .. arguments rehte hain mian biwi ke dharmiyan
and alot of people say that we are allowed to everyday is the same and Allah knows what is happenin and yeh baat Quran mein bhi nai likhi
the first bit sounds like old wives tales, and i agree with the second bit! i think ramadan is the only month you have to be careful with in terms of celebrations... unless you're shia, then its muharram also. people might gossip though if you get married in muharram and isn't pakistan usually more than unstable then... some hangama or the other usually happens during muharram. i'd say take Allah's name and do it in safar. thats what works for you the best anyway, doesn't it?
the first bit sounds like old wives tales, and i agree with the second bit! i think ramadan is the only month you have to be careful with in terms of celebrations... unless you're shia, then its muharram also. people might gossip though if you get married in muharram and isn't pakistan usually more than unstable then... some hangama or the other usually happens during muharram. i'd say take Allah's name and do it in safar. thats what works for you the best anyway, doesn't it?
yes that does work best coz jan abd feb are the best months to leave your job and get the shaadis done..
hey guppies.. choosing the right month of the wedding is alot of work .. we all were thinkin to go down on jan 2008 and get marry my sis first and then 15 days after my bro but now the problem is that
first comes the rozah's and then muharram followed by the safar mahina.. and after that in march its the kids exams there and then comes april and its too hot to b in pak that time for wedding..
so the question is.. safar ke mahiney mein shaadi karna i know its bad but kya do alot of people do it? is it okay? many people say its not good .. arguments rehte hain mian biwi ke dharmiyan
and alot of people say that we are allowed to everyday is the same and Allah knows what is happenin and yeh baat Quran mein bhi nai likhi
well according to our families we r not shia but we respect shia community but apart from shia community let me tell u one thing ,,,"muharram ke mahine me nawas-e-rasool [hazrat imam hussain] shaheed huye the aur unka sogh safar tak raha tha .hum ager shia sunni se hut ker sochey to hum sab se pehle musalmaan hain aur uske tehet hum is baat ka gawara kaise ker saktey hai ke humare akhri rasool safar ke mahene me sogh me they aur hum us mahene me shadi ki shahnaiya bajaein...for instance ,mere younger brother ki shadi rabi-awal me hui thi isi waja se ke humne ehtaramen shadi postponed kerdi thi safar se rabi-awal mein humey maloom tha ke may ki mid me germi hoti hai but tell u wut ? jab shadi shuru hui to mausum all of sudden change hoker thoda thoda thanda hogaya ....Allah miya to khud apne bando ka itna khayal rakhtey hain ...wether ur a shia or a sunni jus leave tht u r a muslim first right n u should respect n follow islam first then everythin right ! so my friend i told u everythin, my best wishes r wid u ...i no lot of people after this post ll argue upon my post but wut ever i ve told u,ap kisi b ache deendaar admi se pucheinge to ap ko wo b yehi bataye ga .:)
decent boy saadgi se ho ya ronaq mele ke sath shadi is a aymbol of happiness we should avoid it totally ...wut say ? right na !
yeh i agree with you if the month is not okay then it doesnt matter if you do it with alot of happiness or just simple.. i mean marriage is still taking place
ap shadi ager nai ker rahe den its ok but if u people still arangin ur weding in this month den wut can i say ,dono surto mein hi best wishes hi deinge .
BEST OF LUCK .!MAY GOD FULLFILL AL UR DREAMZ .AMEEN!
A.) To refrain from any act, marriage, journey, etc. in some months, Muharram, Safar, etc. was a custom of the pre-Islamic era based on superstition. Rasulullah
condemned that by saying, ‘Laa Safara’ (There is no evil in the month of Safar).
There is no restriction on marrying in any part of the year and neither does any part of the year itself have any negative consequences.
And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
I'm getting married in Safar as well. Apparently this is a superstition in many families, however some scholars say that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)'s rishtaa with Ayesha was being proposed at this time. You may want to research that. I really think that it is fine you are having an Islamic nikkah, everything is being done in Allah's name. While, there have been many controversies in the month of Muharram and Safar, a lot of girls get married at this time. I was a bit hesitant because my phupoo scared me but I know of many girls who got married during Muharram etc. and mA their life is amazing. As long as you marry with a full heart and bow down to Allah I think there is no "curse", for Allah is the most Beneficient and most Merciful. You are not committing an act of crime- marriage is a beautiful act.
The month of Safar is like all other months. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) condemned what is said about this month. Abu Hurairah (Radiya Allahu Anhu) reported from the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) that he said:
“No 'Adwa (i.e. no contagious disease is conveyed to others without Allah’s permission); nor (any evil omen in the month of) Safar; nor Hama.” A bedouin said, “O Allah’s Apostle! What about the camels which, when on the sand (desert) look like deers, but when a mangy camel mixes with them they all get infected with mange?” On that Allah’s Apostle said, “Then who conveyed the (mange) disease to the first (mangy) camel?”
donot know specificaly for wedding but i have read this thing yesterday that this month is also like other month or u can read this link may be it help u.
To each their own. There have been a few weddings happening. Some people did them after chaleeswa of imam hussain. Some before. Some feel it's right to give respect, some don't think it is an issue.
So to each their own. Aisey toh I have seen weddings in Moharram too.
