it sounds disgusting to me
well it obviously it sounds bad when some thing like happen before ruksathi in islamic point of view if we consider so islam also does not allow this bcoz it will creat many many complicities for the girl may be his becoming husband deny after perform all this with her wife before ruksathi and being good husband of his wife he should not do even think of this before marry its seems quite disgusting and shows immorality may be some of them will not agree with my point
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lol...they prolly have.
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Nikah is done : SEX allowed.
Rukhsati is Reception or offering food to family/friend, what sex has to do with rukhsati?
Thats religious & technical answer.
As a serious note, why would like to be pregnant straight after marriage? Wouldn't u like to spend time with ur spous before starting a family? I'd say better to have a year or two just without kids, enjoy the life, give time to each other & then go for the family.
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before rukhsathi sex creates many many complicies for a girl let suppose if a man perform all this with his wife without ruksathi and if she get preg then may be man says i have not done such things with her so due to this point of u islam does not allow mean it seems immoral before ruksathi and good husband suppose to behave properly on this holy relation and aviod unnessary things which could be harm full for their holy relation before rukhsathi
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Rite hangon..
I have actually seen a ‘mehndi’ going on with a pregnant bride 
She got ‘married’ i.e. nikah in Pak, and they did a mini-mehndi here and rukhsati
And it looked stupid
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whats ruksati??
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Haq Allah!!
Nikah is a marital agreement between the bride and the groom. This IS marraige. Rukhsati, mehndi, mayooN are just the products of culture/tradition. Once a couple enters into the contract of marraige (Nikah), they can go ahead with the process of pro-creation.
*By the way there is no place for "sex" in Islam. It is the act of pro-creation. Sex is merely for physical pleasure......a negative feeling, illegitimate. Procreation is the same act which is done for carrying forward your generation, a legitimate act for married couples. This is how Allah has made the same pleasurable act legal as well as illegal. To answer your question specifically, YES.....the couple after entering into the marraige contract (Nikah) can do the act of pro-creation. As a matter of fact they must do it ASAP. The delay in it (referred to as rukhsati) may cause disturbance for the couple and "Gunah" (sin) for those involved in the delay for the couple to "meet".
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Excuse me,did I read you correctly.What’s the basis of your argument that Islam doesn’t allow it.Culturally,it may be considered ‘immoral’(which makes one wonder if the nikaah itself has not legitemized it,what will!).
Sorry but you comment on the good husband made me laugh:omg:
P.S. Please stop confusing culture and social traditions with religion.
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If you dont want to have an early rukhsati then dont do nikah... Nikah is also a kind of rukhsati..... but just people want to show it officialy they keh 'Kuri toor chadi ai' but you cant say that they must remain away.... like this you are giving prefrence to the world than the orders of Allah.
Rukhsati is nthng when you get nikahed then you have to go with your husband.... I dont know why people are doing so I mean after doing nikah they do rukhsati late enough.... its just like doing manghani and breaking it and so doing nikah and giving talaq... beacause in that much time many good AND bad things happens that makes sometime the man or woman to change his / her mind and to refuse to go with each other.....
My oppinion is that when they get into nikah the same day they must send the lady with his husband. No later!
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Okay, explain to me why the Nikkah and Ruksati aren't happening at the same time.
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DUH, after nikah you can do whatever you want.
im sure you dont need ur parents permission to sleep with your husband.
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Haq Allah!!
Nikah is a marital agreement between the bride and the groom. This IS marraige. Rukhsati, mehndi, mayooN are just the products of culture/tradition. Once a couple enters into the contract of marraige (Nikah), they can go ahead with the process of pro-creation.
By the way there is no place for "sex" in Islam. It is the act of pro-creation. Sex is merely for physical pleasure......a negative feeling, illegitimate. Procreation is the same act which for carrying forward your generation, a legitimate act for married couples. This is how Allah has made the same pleasurable act legal as well as illegal.
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sex for physical pleasure is illegitimate . . . are you saying this for married people or unmarried people? ? ? ?
cause i highly doubt that sex for physical pleasure within the boundaries of marriage is illegitimate.
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Impulse.. As always, pls share the golden words of your fiance regarding this issue. Os beecharay pe mujhay taras anay laga hai ab...
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I wouldnt do it
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okay check this out…i’ve had this conversation with my mum and she said that the whole point of doing nikkah is so that if the boy and girl are seen out together i.e. shopping, restaurant etc…then people can’t say anything coz you’ve had your nikkah . But she also said that under no circumstances should the boy and girl have sex until the rukhsati even if it’s a few years later! Like impulse said the reason why the rukhsati might be a bit later is for many reasons…i.e. the family is saving up for the wedding and all these other reasons.
my mum and i’m sure a lot of other parents do not thiink you are husband and wife until the rukhsati 
why can’t they make things easier for us huh?
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I'm doing what I gotta do with my wife after nikaah and before the ruksati.
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Well once you have consumed the marriage (be it before rukhsati) you need to have the valima asap and announce that you are living togather.
I think instead of hiding and doing stuff in fear, just tell your parents that you want to live togather and then do whatever you wish to do without being the fear that what if i get pregnant or someone finds out, etc etc. Yes you are husband and wife but once you have consumed the marriage you have to announce that you are living togather.
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what if shes not comfortable and wants to wait?