Sex in Islam

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**Birth Control

I think this something which is not in our hand and THIS IS WHY THERE IS PROBABLY NO HADITH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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^^** Birth control IS permissable** under conditions ie. it is temporary, if the woman wants to wait a couple of years to start family as she doesn’t feel ready, she wants to space her kids out a bit to make it easier etc., it is NOT permissable if the reason they are delaying kids is money.** The decision to use birth control must be agreed by both husband and wife.**

Here are the complete details:

**Is contraception permissible? Is it disliked? What is the better way? **

         Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani                 
     
                                    **Question:**

             
              **Is contraception permissible? Is it disliked? What is the better way? **

         
                           **Answer:**

In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate
May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad, his folk, companions, and followers
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

Contraception is permitted. However, it is superior not to engage in contraception without genuine reason or benefit, because the Qur’an and Sunna have encouraged having children, and there is great benefit to the individual and society in raising righteous children.

Allama Jad al-Haqq (Allah have mercy on him), the pious late 20th Century Shaykh al-Azhar, wrote in a fatwa dated 1399 AH (1979 CE), that:

  1. **Contraception is permitted if the husband and wife agree, as there is nothing in the Qur’an or Sunna to prohibit it; rather, the hadiths and practice of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) indicate permissibility, and this is confirmed by the words of the jurists across the schools of Islamic law. **

  2. It is not permitted to engage in contraception without the agreement of the spouse–for both husband and wife.

  3. Contemporary forms of contraception, whether used by the husband or the wife, are akin to the `azl (ejaculating outside the vagina) mentioned in the hadiths, as is explicitly understood from the words of the jurists of the Hanafi and other schools. Rather, they are superior, more natural, and less harmful.

  4. It is not permitted to use irreversible contraception–such as sterilization.

  5. It is not permitted for there to be state-imposed forcible population planning. [Summarized from Jad al-Haqq’s fatwa, from Mawsu`at Fatawa Dar al-Ifta’ al-Masriyya]

Other contemporary fuqaha state likewise.

**While some texts indicate that it is somewhat disliked (makruh tanzihan) to do so, this is not what most of the major jurists of the Hanafi school state. Even jurists who stated that it is disliked mentioned that if there is a sound reason or benefit to engage in contraception then it is not disliked.

**In our times, this would include reasons such as having a manageable family size, when one does not have the support of extended families in raising the children; the desire to give the children the attention, education, and support they need in difficult times; genuine (physical or emotional) health reasons, and so on.

However, we understand at the same time that one of the purposes (maqasid) and wisdoms of marriage is to have children, as mentioned by Imam Ghazali in his Ihya’ Ulum al-Din.

The Qur’an and Sunna of the Beloved Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) have encouraged having children. There is great benefit to the individual and society in having children. Not only does having righteous children maintain healthy communities and societies, but it also teaches humanity: few things are more effective in teaching good character, mercy, compassion, and true love as having children does.

This is why the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Marry and multiply.” [Abu Dawud and Nasa’i]

Faraz Rabbani

Source: Is contraception permissible? Is it disliked? What is the better way?

On another note, if something has not actually declared haram it is not allowed for us to declare it so.

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Yeah, apart from practices that have been ruled haram (such as anal sex) other things as long as they don't cause harm or aren't demeaning should be ok.

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No oral sex is allowed ..dang. .can someone please point me to references. :bummer: .. :bummer:

whenever i came in Religion forum, i know something new to change.. which i love. Eventually i will have 6 feet long beard… :bummer:

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Actually, there are mixed opinions on this, some say it’s ok if wife does not swallow, others say haram. **The majority view now is that it is permissable taking into account the point above and it is done (both ways) with partner’s consent.

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Question and Answer Detail
Title

Islam’s Stance on Oral Sex

                       Question:

                                     Respected scholars of Islam, As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahmatu Allah wa Barakatuh. I have a question that perplexes my mind, and I want you to clarify. What is the Islamic stance on oral sex between the husband and his wife? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Date 19/May/2004

Name of Counsellor
Group of Muftis

Topic
Intimate relations

                                   **Wa`alykum As-Salaamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh. **

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

**All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. **

Dear questioner, thank you so much for your concerns about your religion and Allah’s teachings even in what concerns your sexual life with your wife.

As regards your question, it is to be noted, first of all, that all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided, that is anal sex and having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation. Thus, it is permissible for a husband and a wife to practice cunnilingus and fellatio. Following we’d cite the opinions of some well-known Muslim scholars in this regard:

The eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi states:

“I was asked about oral sex in America and Europe when I began to travel to these countries in the early 70s. We are not used to be asked these questions in our Muslim countries. Those Western people are accustomed to stripping naked during sexual intercourse. These are communities of nakedness, and from the licentiousness of the woman that she wears nothing to screen her body in her daily life.

So, they are in need of more excitements during copulation. However, men in our Muslim societies see nothing in the Muslim woman that can excite them on the basis of her wearing either Hijab (veil) or Niqab (face cover). But concerning whether being in complete nakedness during practicing copulation is lawful or not, the Prophet of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said, “Guard your private parts except from your wife or your slaves.”
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Muslim jurists are of the opinion that it is lawful for the husband to perform cunnilingus on his wife, or a wife to perform the similar act for her husband (fellatio) and there is no wrong in doing so. But if sucking leads to releasing semen, then it is Makruh (blameworthy), but there is no decisive evidence (to forbid it).**

These parts are not dirty like anus, but it is ordinarily disgusting to man. But there is no decisive evidence to make it unlawful, especially if the wife agrees with it or achieves orgasm by practicing it. Allah, Exalted and Glorified be He, says: "And who guard their modesty, save from their wives or the slaves, that I heir right hands possess, for then they are not blameworthy, but Who so craveth beyond that, such are transgressors.” (Al-Mu’minun: 5-7)”

In the light of this, scholars maintain that the husband is allowed to enjoy his wife through any means of enjoyment except anal sex, for that is strictly forbidden.

Dr. Ali Jum`ah, professor of the Principles of Islamic Jurisprudence at Al-Azhar Univ., says further that licking, sucking and kissing spouse’s sexual organs are all allowed, as long as it gives a person sexual gratification that will keep him away from Haram (unlawful) or starring at opposite sex (marriageable). But every Muslim must keep in mind that sexual intercourse is just a lust and passion that must be satisfied in a lawful way; it’s not to be perceived as necessary as foods and drinks, as it’s the case in the Western perverted ideology.

Shedding more light on this, Dr. Sabri `Abdul Ra’ouf, professor of Islamic Comparative Jurisprudence, at Al-Azhar Univ, says that it’s allowed for the married couple to enjoy each other as long as what they do does not run counter to the teachings of Islam or violate the public norms. He also gives support to the view of Sheikh Al-Qaradawi that oral sex or kissing private parts of the spouse is something viewed disgusting to Muslims, but if the aim is just kissing (without having constant indulgence in it) it’s not sinful to do that, but people of high morality normally keep away from that, as not to give in to imitating non-Muslims.”

**In conclusion, it has become clear now that oral sex is not prohibited, but it is not the normal choice for committed Muslims and Muslimahs. That’s, despite that oral sex is not Haram, it is completely disgusting and does not conform to the pure taste and decency of a Muslim personality.
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Here, it should be noted that one of the main objectives of Shari`ah is to safeguard the life of people and keep them healthy. Based on this, **if it is scientifically proven that oral sex or such practices cause mouth cancer or form a danger on the health of a person who practices it, then it becomes totally prohibited.
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You can also read:

Oral Sex with One’s Wife: Is Ghusl Obligatory?

Brother, if you are still in need of more information, don’t hesitate to contact us. Do keep in touch. May Allah guide us all to the straight path!

                                                                       **Allah Almighty knows best.**

Source: Islam’s Stance on Oral Sex - IslamonLine.net - Ask The Scholar

Another source showing it is allowed: http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=3&ID=2189&CATE=357

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hmm people are questioning the validity of Oral sex! and I thought it was an important part of foreplay.

so whats the verdict on its link with mouth cancer??

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btw its a good chance for girls who express their discontent that guys dont "return the favour" (regarding the issue above) to raise thier voice. I have read some posts mentioning it in an indirect way in Life and Relationship forum.

True or False
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It's not proven....not yet.

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Really, with due Respect. Role Playing is for people who seem to have no life. Role Play. Playing Dcotor & Nurse or what? Oral Sex seems to be a very important factor. It confuses every Muslim Boy, because it is so much important. That really proves us to be beasts and perverts like westerners. How many control there semen when they have oral sex? They come and it is called blameworthy, but it's not forbidden. That is so contradicting in itself. It is blameworthy but not forbidden.

That is so disgusting.

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Fake self created issue...I pity you. You are good at making up fake stories. lol...Yaar leave your fantasies to yourself....

I was at the bus stop...and this girl came to me..and asked....how are babies born? lol...cmon yaar don't roleplay.

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Yaar desi wesi bhee tersay howay log hotay hein. Let them have some fun in the name of Islam. Atleast people wont point fingers at them for being ....#####(sensored)

The next topic would be " How to Use Lota ....in Islam"

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grossly judging and generalizing people like that tells a lot about yourself and your upbringing.

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Don't know why some people are making weird statements when all the massail about haidh, sexual intercourse and ghusl have been written down in our Scriptures, do they avoid reading them because of some weird reason?

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Sorry but I am not easily provoked!:wink:

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I agree they are all written and available online. But if somebody wants to discuss topics like:

Is BDSM allowed in Islam?

Golder shower fetish in Islam

BJ in Islam

Adult Breastfeeding in Islam

Cross dressing in Islam

Threesome In Islam....

The the chances are that he/she is not asking genuine questions but wants to expose pervertness of mind.

Hope the point is clear to Mr INtoxicated!

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My suggestion is everybody does their own research on this subject caz everything is available online. If you can create account on this forum..i am pretty sure that you can also browse for Islamic rulings on these topics.

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No one even mentioned all the above terms that you have named so this tells us someone has something weird in his mind.

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Yes...nobody mentioned all the terms but they mentioned part of it....for example some was curious about... BDSM. another chap asked about the BJ ( Mouth thing).....and one curious fellow asked about roleplaying.....
Me...i dared it all...I listed all of them.....so whats weird about it?

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True indecent::
In a small village mosqe there was an imam.

Once he was giving khutba on jumah, he said if you read "bismmillah " before being with wife you will always have nice(neak) kids.
(His own boy was a trouble maker)
So when he said that, a nimazi said loudly "apni dafa bhool gay thy ?"

Timepass- December 2012