^In that case, wouldn’t many of us be somebody’s leavings? For example, let’s say that a propsective guy/family came to check you out. And although they didn’t have any serious objections to you, the guy and his family felt that a spark was lacking. They thought you were a nice person…and they suggest your name for another family that is looking for a rishta for their son. Should you be considered someone’s leavings? Many of us (guys and girls) have been rejected by rishtas…or someone that we were interested in getting to know. But you move forward.
Some questions though:
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You know your friend and her personality well, I’m assuming. You got to know this guy a bit. Do you sincerely think that it would be worth your friend’s time to get to now him? I mean if you think that they’d both be incompatible or if you have serious objections to this guy that may potentially harm your friend…in that case, I wouldn’t suggest this guy. But if not, then no harm in suggesting it.
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Does your friend know that you were at one point trying to get to know this guy? Ask her how she’d feel about it. Much of how you come across will depend upon how you word it. Tell her that "There was this guy who I wanted to get to know and I thought he was really nice/attractive, but I personally didn’t feel a spark and there’s nothing wrong with him overall. I was wondering how you’d feel about checking him out. What may work for one person might not for another and vice versa. I’m making the suggestion as a friend and there are no obligations and if it makes you feel uncomfortable, I totally understand. "