What is ur opinion about friendship between boys and girls .
What is ur opinion about chatting with old friends of opposite gender after marriage. Specially when u were having relation with him/her but could not get married due to being from different qoumiat ( mohajir / pathan )
Do u feel it is right to keep on doing when u know that ur spouse get hurt with this specially he/she is not involve in doing so.
Do u feel it is right to hide your chatting from your spouse specially when he/she is open for all his / her accounts
Above are happening because both boy and girl are from different upbringing ( one conservative and other liberal )
5. Do u feel both shud get separated because these issues will keep rising as both feel own pint of view as correct. They already are married for 8 years and have two kids
Above questions are serious and answers ( specially 5 ) may help in deciding future course of action.
depends on your intentions and how you talk to each other
clearly not. if your spouse can't take it, either tell them openly or just don't do it
Depends what is meant by 'chatting'. Again it's about intentions. Why hide it from your spouse in the first place?
Nope. Stuff like being 'liberal' or 'conservative' don't matter after 8 years and 2 kids, most couples tend to compromise with each other and try to streamline their values. I don't think things like 'chatting to an ex' are enough of a reason to break up a marriage.
What is ur opinion about friendship between boys and girls .
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If you're single, its different. You can develop platonic friendships in school and they can carry on for years afterwards as well.
***If you're married, you should maintain some (not saying cut off) distance out of respect for your spouse.
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2. What is ur opinion about chatting with old friends of opposite gender after marriage. Specially when u were having relation with him/her but could not get married due to being from different qoumiat
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Chatting with a potential love interest after marriage is not really going to help build trust between two parties. Trust is earned...not given.
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3. Do u feel it is right to keep on doing when u know that ur spouse get hurt with this specially he/she is not involve in doing so.
*If what you're doing hurts your spouse...you should stop. If they feel so strongly about it, it might be something you should let go of and I don't find it to be unreasonable.
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4. Do u feel it is right to hide your chatting from your spouse specially when he/she is open for all his / her accounts
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If someone feels the need to hide...they're doing something wrong. **
Above are happening because both boy and girl are from different upbringing ( one conservative and other liberal )
Do u feel both shud get separated because these issues will keep rising as both feel own pint of view as correct. They already are married for 8 years and have two kids. Above questions are serious and answers ( specially 5 ) may help in deciding future course of action.
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I don't think strangers on an anonymous forum can help you decide what you should do to help your marriage. What's best is counseling to help each party realize what they're doing wrong.
Obviously, someone's being a douche bag in the relationship. But is there more to this story than meets the eye? Has everything been revealed?
no (not that I have any male friends...in fact, I don't have any friends)
I'm not into chatting at all.
keep on doing what?
no...you're not supposed to hide anything from your spouse.
I don't know....
Here's the thing.
Never never never never ever never think of having an affair while you're married. If you wanna divorce then divorce but hiding the truth from your husband and kids is the worst thing one can do in marriage.
^ Nomica : u r rite . If some one can think but some one may think if he knew all before marriage
^ Reha : There is more and I rite a long story but later on deleted all.
^MadHatter : Chatting in the beginning is general chit chat . Problem is y to add some body who the girl insisting that she dont know and later on that man sending romantic poems and at the end rite that I " STILL " luv u . Shall it not make doubt ....
^Decent6chora : I also feel u r correct. We r totally different in our thoughts over these issues and I believe these cant be resolved. Better to decide.