We have been having serious issues pretty much due to me learning to stand up for myself and actually coming out to my parents about the exploitation, humiliation, emotional and physical abuse from my ‘pious’ husband. I had an arranged marriage at 21 to a cousin back home, later realised they had huge financial issues so you can figure out why the proposal was initial especially when i don’t match up to my partner in looks.
Ever since I told about the last five years on-goings there is violence and instead trying to take revenge by him starting to take responsibility financialy in return for dictating, so I have no say where we move, childs school etc.
Though today we had an argument about school in which I was told child will not go to the school i want as he was taunted by me and my father about money, so basically it’s revenge.
Over the past year I have fallen into depression and currently having counselling and starting with relaxant drugs, avoid anti-depressents, as a result feel very lonely and helpless all the time as don’t have much support around me. In the argument I just ended up saying I am alone but god is with me and I pray he ruins you and your family. So he said I give you talaaq, he refrained to going on to say it again and said I give you your first talaaq.
Now he is trying to be nice but saying doesn’t regret what he said, worst part is when he was saying those words not for a moment I though I don’t want this marriage to end and just though how my dad will cope with and realised I am in this just to keep faces and protect people who dragged me into this in the first place.
Now I am just confused how to react to this, tell my family or not which will just make it messy as they are uber narrow minded and don’t want the stigna to divorce and would control me further, though very well know who is in the wrong. Give my husband the silent treatment, I don’t want him to think he can do that and get away with it while I compromised everything for this relatioships, took responsibility financially and in return he forces me to say to people he bought the house, car and never to disclose my pay which I have gone along with. Though there is so much crap building inside me and I am breaking down
