How to deal with it?
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Is this question pertaining an adult or a baby?
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can you be more specific please?
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Adults.
When a family member, relative, friend or someone you're close to comes to stay with you for a few days and you get all sad/lonely after they leave.
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^ Its very hard to deal with. Happens to me every time my mom leaves after visiting me. It takes 2-3 weeks to recuperate. Shay, call em up and talk to them as much as you can after they leave, that helps.
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Oh Shay...I know how you feel...my niece used to live with me and she just moved to Boston. I get all teary when I see a blanket or toy of hers.
Spocky is right...call them and talk to them. I call her up and listen to her baby talk almost everyday - keeps me sane.
Hope you feel better!
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Keeping in contact with them, to feel close
Keeping busy with other things in your life -meaningful things that bring purpose and happiness in your life, not just busy-busy things to dull your brain
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Plan a visit - that way you have someting to look forward to. Chat online, call them up. It gets better with time. First few days are the wrose.
Missing a person is normal esp if they are big part of your life.
When I was younger my best friend moved away - I felt soooo alone after that. I didn't realize that we did everything together.
This happens very brutally immediately after my every visit to Pakistan. I dont know how to deal with, though I've been visiting almost every year. I think time is my only friend which helps me overcome my emotions to some extent.
Wierd part is that I dont see my fellows over there missing me as much as I miss them all .... lol
Not sure if I'm like that or it happens with everyone.
Without darkness, it's hard to appreciate light. I know it's hard to separate from family/friends. Isn't it strange how absence makes the heart grow even fonder for your distant loved ones? And ironically, it's the separation break that makes the next reunion even SWEETER!!! Not only just the next reunion, but also the phone calls, email etc.
Try and keep in touch through regular calls and emails. InshaAllah you'll feel better:)
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Also
invite someone else at home (kidding)
go on a trip,
make yourself busy in something.....................!!!!!
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Same thing happened when my sister came for 2 weeks and left after that. I wished that everything would change and she could move closer to me...
When we know realities we can work on ourselves to remind us what is in our control and what is not. Most of the time, you have to make a conscious decision to get over an emotion. Yes time does heal but it's more painful.
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shay i know what u mean, im in the same situation as u but maybe a bit better cause my fiances paretns live here to. But look at the bright side u can talk to him whenever u like. Long distance calling isnt a problem for u as it is for me. Take advantage. Call/text him as much as possible and let him know how much u miss it. Im sure he misses you just as much. =) dont wrry ull be in town for my wedding inshallah in June.
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I think, time is the only great healer .it lasts for a week or two for anyone to come to normal.