Separation to save our marriage

[Nad_e_Ali]

Re: Separation to save our marriage

@Tempe5t

How can you attempt to change the relationship in a ‘positive manner’ if you plan to have ‘zero contact’ with him? If you think about it, it doesn’t make much sense.

Your post is vague, Op. You have not really provided us with enough reasons for why you think a divorce is the best or even valid decision. Maybe you will expand upon it later. Children move to new locations all the time from cities to countries to schools. And it can be challenging but it’s not impossible. And younger children don’t form as strong attachments with their environment, so change is easier for them to adjust to.

I do not want to be in contact with him because I am fed up of the blame game. My husband is being very stubborn at the moment, he think everything is all my fault, and I am some evil person who’s destroying his life. On the other hand, I think that we are both equally responsible for our problems and only I should be blamed for everything. Plus what’s the point of living away and being on phone with each other 24 hrs? And we have not spoken a word since the past 4 days. I think we should both take a break from each other so we can realize the importance of being together as a family.

And I do not want a divorce that is why we are having a trial separation. But my husband wants this at the moment. Im not sure what’s making him take such a big decision, maybe he’s saying this in anger. But we will discuss this after spending some time alone.