Re: Separation to save our marriage
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The first thing you need to do is get counseling for YOURSELF. I saw your previous thread and it sounds like you have lived in a unhealthy situation for years. You need to talk to someone who will 100% neutral and who will help you sort through your own feelings/perspectives. If your kids are old enough to where they understand what’s going on meaning they understand that you moved out of the house…then have your kids meet with a child therapist so they have help dealing with their own feelings.
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Please post here what your uncle tells you. I am generally against getting legal advice from family members, especially in these type of situations, because for most desis, it’s almost impossible to remain neutral.
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You need to form a back-up plan. Not being able to support yourself/kids should NOT be a reason for you to stay in this marriage. You wrote you took a semester off school. Are you able to take online courses so you’re not behind? Are you able to get a part-time job, ANY job, so that you’re getting used to working and have a small amount of money saved up?
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Raising two kids on your own is hard. But going by your previous thread, that environment with your in-laws sounded very toxic. Your in-laws fighting with one another and you fighting with your husband on a regular basis is a horrible way for your kids to grow up. It will give them a very negative view of marriage. So if you’re going to work on this marriage, I would recommend moving out of the in-laws home is something that really needs to happen (assuming your husband is willing to make that sacrifice for your and his children).
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Your kids need a mom and dad who love them and are working together to raise them. They do not need a mom/dad who are constantly fighting and have no tolerance for one another. If being separated/divorced will get you and your husband to stop fighting regularly, and your husband is still willing to stay involved in the kids lives, then it’s not like your kids are losing their dad.