Good idea or not?
Even those who balk at the idea of a couple going away independent of each other (he goes to Vegas, she goes on a spa weekend), it seems that when it comes time to “visit” the family, husbands and wives will go back home separately - is that acceptable?
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Must be a super slow day out in leagalsville
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I feel like visiting family is different from a solo vacation to Vegas or something along those lines. Personally I think the first one is okay, the second one not so much. Then again that is just how some people work.
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I think most husbands would be pretty happy if their wives left for a little vacation. 
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Must be a super slow day out in leagalsville
...maybe :D
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We don't even visit families separately. She goes back home before me though as she is currently stay-at-home mom and can spend months in Pakistan but I am bound to whatever vacations I can take so I join them later on.
I am totally OK with the idea of having a day or two out with friends etc but I'd like her and kids to be with me when I m vacationing (i.e full flash vacations) and I am sure she has the same feelings.
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I cannot think of vacationing without family , they can have it and done so many times when I was bound by some project at work.
I feel very lonely without my family so I cannot enjoy vacation , that is why. 
I still feel lonely at home when they are vacationing but that is fine by me.
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in this a confession?
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i really don’t need him being all that kush. So I wont be going on any vacations alone.
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As far as visiting family, if she would go separately from me, it would most likely be because I don't have time off from work while she doesn't need to worry about work. Other than that, I would want to always have my wife on vacation with me.
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Visiting family is hardly a *vacation *(for the spouse)
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ssssssssssshhhhhhhhhh don’t tell anybody.
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thread reminds me of a colleague who was busy at work and his wife went on vacations with a few female friends.
As he was telling us about his wife going away, i jumped in and said "just make sure she keeps a box of Durex in her handbag".
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thread reminds me of a colleague who was busy at work and his wife went on vacations with a few female friends.
As he was telling us about his wife going away, i jumped in and said "just make sure she keeps a box of Durex in her handbag".
AHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHA
No.
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thread reminds me of a colleague who was busy at work and his wife went on vacations with a few female friends.
As he was telling us about his wife going away, i jumped in and said "just make sure she keeps a box of Durex in her handbag".
Also, if I was your colleague I would have slapped you silly.
No one gets to joke about the Missus*.
*Well, not those kinds of jokes anyways.
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Good idea or not?
Even those who balk at the idea of a couple going away independent of each other (he goes to Vegas, she goes on a spa weekend), it seems that when it comes time to "visit" the family, husbands and wives will go back home separately - is that acceptable?
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Whether or not it's a "good idea" for a spouse to visit his/her family without their other half depends on what type of relationship the "other half" has with their in-laws. If the in-laws and the SIL or DIL get along great....then there's no reason not to include them in the visit. However, if there is tension and/or bad "feelings" between the in-laws and the SIL/DIL.....then a visit may make it worse.
Is it acceptable? That's for the specific couple to decide. If the husband and wife are comfortable with their decision....everyone else just needs to respect that.
** All the same above apply to separate vacations in general. Its not for everyone. If a couple wants to stay glued to one-another 24/7...then let them be. If a couple wants to go on separate vacations all the time....let them be. It's their marriage...their partnership. If they're both happy with their choices...then at the end...that's all that matters.
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I think it would be too awkward having separate vacations. This issue is really going to pop up next year for me, because I am going to have 5 more days of vacation per year than my wife.
I've ended up concluding that as I can't really responsibly leave and go somehwere for a week without her, the only appropriate thing to do will be to hole up at home with a crate of Red Bull and the Xbox 360 for a whole week :-D
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Also, if I was your colleague I would have slapped you silly.
No one gets to joke about the Missus*.
*Well, not those kinds of jokes anyways.
i dont think i will ever be throwing any such joke to a desi person, so dont worry :)
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i dont think i will ever be throwing any such joke to a desi person, so dont worry :)
Um, so a non-desi man and his wife deserve less consideration, and you think you can blatantly disrespect his wife like that? Oh, I would love to see him "teach" you some manners and class.
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i dont think i will ever be throwing any such joke to a desi person, so dont worry :)
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