So what do you all make of a couple that takes vacations separately?
Is that normal?
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Depends on the vacation, where, for how long, how often etc
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its only abnormal if they dont take any vacations together,
in fact I would think it would be the perfect excuse to spend some time away from each other too…though im the chipku type so i probably would not want to go the “separate vacation” route myself 
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Yeh, it's absolutely normal, nothing wrong in that, we just came back from our holiday where we both were together, now I desperately want my seperate holiday to Pakistan at my mum's, don't know but I don't want him to go with me this time,, We living with each other for more than 2 years now without any single break now need some time out. He can make some plans with his friends too.
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Yeah pretty normal. My cousin lives in Australia and goes to Pakistan every year (sometimes twice a year) and spends 2 months along with her kids with her family (mom and sis) away from her husband.
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Depends on the vacation, where, for how long, how often etc
Yeah exactly. I don't think many people would mind their spouse going to Pakistan alone. They know they'll be living with family and getting up to the usual stuff.
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Yeah pretty normal. My cousin lives in Australia and goes to Pakistan every year (sometimes twice a year) and spends 2 months along with her kids with her family (mom and sis) away from her husband.
Yeah exactly. I don't think many people would mind their spouse going to Pakistan alone. They know they'll be living with family and getting up to the usual stuff.
Sending wife and children back home to Pakistan to spend time with families is not equivalent to having separate vacations since the husbands usually don't get such a long vacation and usually join their wives and children for few weeks back home.
I think it would be odd if the husband and wife would go on vacation seperately every time, e.g. going on a cruise with friends. Going on a vacation separately once in a while is ok but there would be something seriously wrong if they go on vacations separately every time.
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So what do you all make of a couple that takes vacations separately?
Is that normal?
Most couples I know go on vacations together and separately. I know one couple who rarely travel together. The reason? She's scared of flying.....he LOVES to travel. So while they restrict "their" vacations to driving distances and SHORT flights to visit family b/c of her phobia....the husband regularly goes on international vacations by himself or his friends. He actually likes to travel by himself (something the rest of social circle really doesn't "get").
I think "normal" is what works for a couple. The couple mentioned above, neither of them have any issues with the "arrangement". So if the couple themselves have no issues with taking vacations separately....then it really shouldn't matter to anyone else.
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Im surprised someone hasn’t already said this:
If you have to take seperate vacations then something’s seriously wrong with your relationship!
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^I was about to say that but then who am I to judge people!!
Personally, I cant see myself taking separate vacations.. just not my cup of tea!!!
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Erm, no there isn’t. I know plenty of married couples who sometimes holiday with their friends/siblings and not with each other. A lads only/girls only weekends away are so common among my friends and family. The couples also holiday together and with extended members of family/friends.
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Those are the real dream vacations for some. ;)
Why do both have to be attached with a glue all their lives?
It may give some time to rejuvenate the relation.
If it is due to timing being off, especially if both work, or husband cannot take off for so many days to go overseas then that's fine.
But then the question might not be on these scenarios.
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I did say this in the last line of my post 
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I would love to be able to take a seperate weekend break away with my friends, i love my space and cant imagine being glued to my husband ew.
Maybe I will change after marriage and depends on what the husband thinks too.
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^I was about to say that but then who am I to judge people!!
Personally, I cant see myself taking separate vacations.. just not my cup of tea!!!
hehehe......its ok if its not what you want to do but not everybody/every couple is the same. I was reading an article on another forum and the author said something along the lines--that if u need to spend a night away with the girls, you need to reevaluate the relationship you're in. I was sure some people here would agree with it. :D
Erm, no there isn't. I know plenty of married couples who sometimes holiday with their friends/siblings and not with each other. A lads only/girls only weekends away are so common among my friends and family. The couples also holiday together and with extended members of family/friends.
Yep. I can totally understand those who have busy careers/lives and are juggling many things and want to save their free time for each other....and that's great..but I don't think going away alone from time to time means ther'es anything wrong with a marriage..how judgmental is that!
I did say this in the last line of my post :D
yeah but I don't read your posts. :)
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my mother went to hawai by herself and she called my dad everyday
emailed too
my dad also does the same when he went to china
they are a happily married couple and spend a lot of time together (going on dates etc)
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for the first two years …for a couple it could be unthinkable going on separate vacations …after that when the chipkoo phase diminishes then am sure couples wouldn’t mind going on separate vacations like once in a while 
IMO if the husband is super busy with work committments, leave schedule why keep the wife tied at home!
and if I would want a vacation in Pakistan, I would prefer going there alone and spending time with my family and friends..it makes things much easier..because if your husband is also around you ..you can’t spend the pre-bachelor time with your family then.
But then again it varies ! so far my hubby doesnt want me to go alone to Pakistan even ..i’d tell you after 2-3 years time InshAllah :halo:
Separate vacations! Aye chiwawa - I would want sit in his lap and twirl his hair...
Messing hmm could be good if you went with friends, but tbh would be more fun taking vacations together no? Seeing the world together?
I used volunteer at a hospice there was this old couple there, and the man used visit his sick wife everyday and on weekends spend the whole Sunday there, I used sit with them sometimes, and they'd tell me they visited 40 countries together, in their lifetime. Still very much in love with each other, it was very sweet to watch, he used tell me tales, hold her hand and look into her eyes, they'd both smile and laugh.
Surely that's what being married is about. Seeing the world together and building beautiful memories together.
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lol yes
my parents travel together a lot too doesn't mean they cant have separate vacation.
don't you think the mother deserves some time off after caring for her kids 24/7? relaxing and spending time on herself. or is that concept too "western"?
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don't you think the mother deserves some time off after caring for her kids 24/7? relaxing and spending time on herself. or is that concept too "western"?
she must not love her kids enough then.