sensitive parents alert

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Re: sensitive parents alert

@nadz123

Hi guys,

Ok this sort of stems from me. When I was a child, I was very shy very anxious and very sensitive. I was bullied too. not majorly but enough. I was ’ fat’ though and that was the main reason for the teasing.

My child alhumdulilah isn’t fat. Or even slightly over. She’s 3 same size as everyone else. But she is an anxious sensitive child like I was. And I worry .I want her to be different to me. I gained confidence around 11. However I wish for her to be a confident happy child NOW.she is happy at school she does have some friends, but no group as such or a particular friend. She’s slowly gaining some confidence, I just wish she were more carefree and happy than I ever was.

So yeah I know you are all right I should not have said anything to the other girl.

About this play date thing. How the he’ll do you approach another parent and ask what? Most parents ice seen at her class, don’t really seem at all concerned like I am.

some inherent personality traits you can not change nadz. Others traits come and go with time.
you can’t force or MAKE your little one happy … im not sure that she is unhappy? … you havnt said she is unhappy. just anxious and sensitive.
It might help to very gently address the issues that you think are anxiety provoking … repetition, moral support, patience and time.

why do you want her to be different from you? … n some level you are fighting genetics, apple doesnt (can not) fall far from its tree and it definitely cant turn into an orange.

I was a very shy as a child myself and am relatively quiet as an adult. so what. im about as happy as one can get and went into a field that requires a lot of people interaction ans assertiveness. growing up, I resented anyone who made an “issue” of my being quiet/shy. my 2 cent worth input is … leave the child be.

play dates … start with someone whose name your daughter brings up in conversation. get contact info from teacher (or leave a not with the teacher to give to the other parent) or wait around one day till parent of that child shows up and introduce yourself. Thats exactly how a fellow mom at my girls school approached me … and i was so pleasantly surprised and grateful for her effort!
you can also put a note on the announcement board in her classroom … hi my name is nadz, im x’s mom. we are new, looking to make friends … anyone interested in a play date plz contact at ---- number.