selfrespect

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hi all i want to take an advice dont know just happen with me or with every1 .. if ur fiance is saying u ..that u have nothning to do ..use yur brain and heart in some useful things etc and many times not just once ..but when i ask him u want me to do job then he said no im just saying if u had study pharm.d then why u dont use this info …and when i ask something he said u think fazool etc.. but when the same things said by him i didnt say a word to him accept what he says .. when i said i like this and that he said u think only about this and when he said those things he thinks its rite .. dont know how to tackle with this becoz i also have self respect some times he thinks im nothing i think this dont know what to do ? should i make him realize that he hurt me or i just remain quite and leave on ALLAH.. becoz i didnt said him yesterday i just say ok and from them he didnt msg me he is online on sykpe like always but didnt msg me ..usually he msg me and we chat on phone also but from yesterday no response from him and i also didnt msg him… dont know why men r so proud if they r doing job or anything ..well i think i shld remain quite as my mother told me to respect him and not make fight with thats why i m quite but im really hurt by his behaviuor … i know when he want to talk with me he will msg or call me but i think this really rude not giving value other feelings

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the prblm is that he knows that i love him alot

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Two things:

1) Irrespective of what you think, you should in fact DO something if you are not and no that does not necessarily mean job. Pick a hobby, volunteer or work.

2) There is a thin line between self-respect and ego

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Exactly. And pride/ego have no place in a relationship, IMO. He thinks he's superior than you and this attitude will carry into the marriage where often you wont get your say because he doesn't value your opinion. Or he could be just aggravated over something and is taking it out on you. You teach people how to respect you. Put your foot down and say what you have to. And giving him a few days to calm down wouldn't be a bad idea either.

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ok thnks for advice

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I am somewhat like him. Well, my two cents: Ignore his attitude, give him respect and indirectly make him realise that give you importance and respect too and talk with you with great care. Ultimately he would have a lot of space for you in your heart.

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yeah ..thnks.. soni i dont like what u comnt i think im wrong i shrd my prblm here as least if u dont advice u r not allowed to say anything about him

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plz del my this post

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:mad: mod plz del this topic or u should tell ur members not to comnt like this i didnt comnt any1 like this

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soni27: your words are not nice.

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actually that line is pretty thick

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^Preach, brotha’ :k:

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I do not think so. Many of us cross the line without noticing and mistake ego for self-respect....

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why are some people SO against their wives working???? ugh! please explain the mentality behind this way of thinking, i dont get it!!

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ps. cancerian i dont think you need to take things so personally, its a public forum. i think the picture your thread painted of your fiance is it? or husband? as maybe not that nice of a person but ofcourse your the only one who really knows so dont be so bothered by comments like that. we only know as much as you write here..