Self pity destroys faith of a person in himself and in his Lord. A person suffers from it when s/he is not prepared for the worst time which suddenly comes in his life. He gives up his struggle and becomes unhappy with his Lord for putting him / her to that test, which might actually be planned by nature to make him stronger.
If you see a person suffering from it, try to remind him the things he has been blessed with throughout his life and his past achievements, so that he is able regain his confidence in himself and becomes optimistic about his future.
I have recently started a routine with my girls. Every evening we think of at least one thing we are individually thankful for...no matter how small. So far I am getting "Thank You we did not have homework today" etc LOL but they get the drift. Hope I can keep this up and also hope it gets them to focus on the positives in their lives.
I cant stand it either!!! everyone has problems in lives - deal with it...it doesnt mean you go around tell everyone about it and act depressed all the time. I know a few ppl like that...her baat se keere nikalte hien...so ungrateful n negative ppl..
If you wanna see what Real problems are...khud se baher nikal ker look around you...there are children dying of hunger..people losing their loved ones in bomb blasts...or those fighting cancers and counting days to go...get out more and you will see how lucky and blessed you are to have what you have!
sometimes, pausing in everything you are doing, helps. autumn enables you to shed, in a metaphorical way. it delibrates your sense of layered, muffled, innerbeing. when this deskinning happens, something fresh comes out.
ideally, with prior learning, advice of sincere & patient friends & certainly own effort to make things better, any individual can learn to be resilient and improve one bit at a time.
I meet that kind of ppl all the time around me. Usually I just let them speak and lend my ears to them. It does feel a bit odd cuz I just sit there and dont say a word about my own feelings or problems..I use GS for that:D
