Hello everyone! I was doing a much needed self-assessment and came across the following weaknesses that I need to work on. Any tips?
Selfish
Hasty
Indecisive
Selfish-I hear that often by my siblings and have also heard this from one of my closest friends. I don’t see myself as someone who is selfish and I have really tried to figure out how I can fix that about myself.
Hasty- I never think twice about my actions and I am constantly changing my mind, that is the story of my life. I dont know why I am like this and I really need some advice on fixing this about myself.
Indecisive- I can’t ever make a decision on my own. I am always so confused.
Some words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
Are you hasty because you don't have enough time to complete a task? If so, give yourself more time to do things..plan in advance. Especially if it's a decision that will have a huge impact on your life, slow down. We're all selfish to a degree and you can ask the person to elaborate. But is it possible that the selfishness is connected to the hastiness? For example, in your haste to get something done...you may be infringing upon the other person's rights or time, etc. Indecisive....I struggle with that myself . :(
Hello everyone! I was doing a much needed self-assessment and came across the following weaknesses that I need to work on. Any tips?
Selfish
Hasty
Indecisive
Selfish-I hear that often by my siblings and have also heard this from one of my closest friends. I don't see myself as someone who is selfish and I have really tried to figure out how I can fix that about myself.
Hasty- I never think twice about my actions and I am constantly changing my mind, that is the story of my life. I dont know why I am like this and I really need some advice on fixing this about myself.
Indecisive- I can't ever make a decision on my own. I am always so confused.
Some words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
Selfish: Try to find out why your siblings or friends think you might be selfish. If you don't think then it would help to know what others say.
Hasty: You say you change your mind constantly. Some examples may help here.
Indecisive: Well, changing mind and being indecisive may be same here. You may not be sure of one decision and then change your mind.
Nothing wrong in changing mind, this means you were not sure to begin with.
hmm i think you should ask this to people whom are really close to you or same people whom have told u, your bit selfish. in making decision taking advise is really wise, but if your kind of person never ever able to get satisfaction with what you decide that’s another case, a person only stays confuse when he/she dont believe in him/herself, so start believing in yourself even if it turns out to be wrong one just learn from it so next time you could decide on basis of your experience, this self-assessment thing sounds interesting i never tried it for myself hmmm
If you're constantly making hasty decisions, you can watch yourself more carefully next time you're at a crossroads. Make a conscious effort to take some time before speaking your mind.
If you don't trust your judgment on an important issue, you can approach 2-3 of your trusted sources (siblings, close friends or parents). Ask for their input and how they evaluate the situation. What are the pros and cons of a certain scenario. That way you can see for yourself what their thought process is and what course of action they would take under the circumstance. Asking more than one person for their suggestions can give you different outlooks. Ultimately, if it affects you, then it should be your decision and what you're comfortable living with.
If after consulting your closed one, you're still unsure about what to do, then you can do istakhara.
As for the selfishness, it can't be helped too much if it's ingrained in your personality. Perhaps try being more objective and consider other peoples' perspective more often. Don't just think about yourself always, but also what impact an action will have on others and if something you're doing for yourself will end up hurting another.
Where's D2LK when you need her? In the meanwhile, they'll just have to deal with it.
Why thank you for the flattering comments wise sir. :) I will aim to live up to your expectations.
Hello everyone! I was doing a much needed self-assessment and came across the following weaknesses that I need to work on. Any tips?
Selfish
Hasty
Indecisive
Selfish-I hear that often by my siblings and have also heard this from one of my closest friends. I don't see myself as someone who is selfish and I have really tried to figure out how I can fix that about myself.
Hasty- I never think twice about my actions and I am constantly changing my mind, that is the story of my life. I dont know why I am like this and I really need some advice on fixing this about myself.
Indecisive- I can't ever make a decision on my own. I am always so confused.
Some words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
The only explanation left is that the assessment itself is wrong.
Yes, I think most likely my “selfish” nature is connected to my “hastiness” I know I was being called selfish by my sisters and family members for wanting to get married before my sisters or for wanting to hang out and enjoy my time instead of always being home and caring for my parents and the family like my sisters do.
But I am under the impression that If I am respecting my parents, contributing my income in the house, and spending time with my family, then it should be okay for me to look out for myself and to spend on myself and enjoy my time. If my siblings want to devout their whole life to the household and be the perfect kids, is that my fault? When I shared this with them, they said they don’t like to always sit at home or do housework but it is important. Well I understand it is important and I am willing to do as much as I am capable of but if I want to spend time on myself or want to look out for my future, am I being selfish?
I am always changing my mind about my decisions. One minute, I am so sure I don’t want to talk to a particular person and I go out on a limb to make sure that this one person cannot contact me, and then I give myself two to three minutes and I am back to changing my mind and undoing everything that I had decided on. Does that make sense? This is not just the case for friends, but even in life and career decisions. I just tend to have a very hard time deciding on everything.
I agree with sweetequation, I kind of don’t believe in myself and that is why I am so unsure, I have made so many stupid mistakes in my life and have made so many wrong decisions that now I am convinced that I am not capable of making sound decisions.
I have also heard that the more advice you seek and the more opinions you get, the more you will be confused, so I am not sure what to do in regards to consulting people on a particular decision.
Plus, sometimes I feel that no matter what decision I make, my family will always find something wrong with it, so what is the point of consulting.
hmmm