Re: Self absorbed sibling
Do your parents know that he is self-absorbed? Has he been this way since childhood or did it happen in adulthood after he attained professional/material success?
If your parents are not that aware of his behavior, then I think you can request them to talk to him…but they should do it “without” mentioning the name of the other siblings so that he doesn’t think that the others complained about him.
If your brother still has regard for his parents, then maybe their words will have a good influence on him. Or maybe you and your siblings can gently tell him that they feel he has distanced himself from the family and that they’d like to see more of him at family events etc. Do it in a non-accusatory way…so he doesn’t get defensive. If you tell him that he’s arrogant or selfish or thinks he’s better than everybody else…I think it might shut him off toward everyone.
May your parents live a long and happy life (Amin)…but I don’t think that they’d want their kids to develop a grudge towards one another after they have passed away…just as they wouldn’t want this while they are still alive. I know it’s easier said than done…but try to remain in touch with this self-absorbed sibling from your end at least…even if he doesn’t reciprocate. He’s more likely to one day realize the error of his ways if the rest of you remain on good terms with him. If you and your other siblings distance yourself from him…them sometimes that will push someone who already has a big ego…even further away.