This is tricky and depends on what your relationship is like with the guy. I have a friend who is in a similar situation. She is smart, pretty, educated and has it all. However, she has a condition which might (BIG might) prevent her from having kids in the future. She simply does not know at this stage.
The way she handles it - and I find it admirable - is by being upfront and honest about it. Her parents have told her there is no need for her to be so open with people so early but she would rather hear a NO now when there is no emotional attachment than a year later when she is too involved to bear rejection...if she gets rejected.
I realize how difficult it can be to find a good rishta these days. But if you look at it in a different light, you are in a position to have a permanent and long lasting relationship when its based on the truth. If its not based on the truth, its being threatened by the truth. In the back of your mind, you will always think "what if he finds out"? Why put yourself through that mental agony? Like there wont be enough issue to deal with when you are a newlywed...you dont need another.
Thats my take on it.
But what if you never find anyone willing to take that risk? Should one have to spend their life unmarried because of a problem that might/might not be there?
You know how desi parents look forward to having grandchildren? I mean i know for sure if my parents were looking for a rishta for my brother and they found out the girl may not be able to have children, no matter how much they liked her, they would break it off. That might be selfish, yes but i totally understand where they are coming from too.
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the situation u pose is different though... in your situation the person is not even 100% sure that they will have problems (as u said in your post they only think they might or they might not) then i don't think it is right to convey/spread such a "doubt' to the potential rishtaa walay laug... because u dont know for sure yourself... its not like you are hiding something u knew for sure...
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What if later on they find out you were aware of these doubts?
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nd how will they find out that you already knew this info before ???
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Say you go to the doctors later on to discuss the fact that you are unable to fall pregnant and they bring out old records showing you took medication in the past to control the problem. E.g You had problems with your menstrual cycle when you were younger, and they put you on medication to control it?
Or you have been diagnosed with a problem/syndrome which indicates you have some sort of a problem with your ovaries etc.